I saw a question saying that someone they were seeing had deleted or hidden their profile, and since I’ve experienced the same thing, I wanted to join the discussion.

I’m Tetsu, a male club member. The woman I’ve been seeing the longest has already left the club. Some of the other women I’m seeing are still registered, but I think that’s perfectly fine. I understand that being with just one man isn’t enough for a woman to achieve what she wants. Just as male members join the club because they want to have fun with women or be intimate, female members each have their own reasons for registering as well. As for why someone makes her profile private, the truth is that only she herself knows. You should realize sooner rather than later that, as an outsider, there’s no way you can figure out what the woman you’re seeing is really thinking, no matter how many sleepless nights you spend over it. As for the club, I believe they don’t disclose why a woman’s profile has been made private in order to prevent problems that could arise if they did. You should recognize that it’s precisely because they handle matters like this properly that they’re able to maintain such a large number of female members.

Maezawa from the President’s Office here. I’ll answer as well. Thank you for your question. > I understand that once you’re personally involved, it’s hard to see things that way. This isn’t about whether it’s cool or not. If you found out the truth, would you blame the woman? Would you complain, saying, “You lied to me”? And would you ultimately part ways with both of you feeling awful? I think you should carefully consider what you might end up doing after finding out. Taking action could cause trouble for the other person. The club would probably be contacted as well, which could lower their opinion of you. And if you were to become a stalker, the situation could become extremely serious. Or are you saying, “No, I just want to know the truth. I won’t do anything”? But if you aren’t going to do anything, what benefit is there to knowing the truth? If you won’t do anything whether you know or not, I don’t really see what you gain from finding out. If you believe what the other person tells you, then that becomes the truth. This isn’t about whether it’s cool or not. If you complain, the relationship will deteriorate, and if you do nothing, you may end up brooding over it. So, for both of your sakes, it’s better not to know. Actually, rather than saying you shouldn’t know, I think you’ll be happier if you simply trust the other person’s answer. If you later discover it was a lie, you can think, “I’d heard women lie, but I never imagined I’d be the one being lied to,” and play the tragic protagonist if you want. But someone who keeps believing, even after being deceived again and again, will probably be liked by women too. In the end, I think the person you truly like will stay by your side, so overall, things may work out for the better. Of course, it’s a problem if you suffer actual harm, such as lending someone money. But if it’s a harmless lie, the best thing is to believe it. If you think through all the possible outcomes of finding out, I believe you’ll see that this is ultimately the best approach. If you can’t do that, then perhaps you should stop meeting women altogether. Get married and devote yourself to one woman. That may be the happiest option for you. Wanting to be with just one woman means accepting that kind of thing.

I’m date◎yume, a male member. I’ve been busy these past two or three days and haven’t been able to answer much, but I’d like to give one vote each to Paper Airplane and Marika! For various reasons, I’m the type who quietly sticks with one person, but you’ll gradually find out whether a woman is truly the discreet type as well, so I don’t think you need to worry too much. If she turns out not to fit the kind of relationship you’re looking for, you can simply find someone else. I think it’s best not to get too caught up in what’s right in front of you and just take your time observing. In my experience, the women I date are surprisingly straightforward. That said, they do need financial support, so I think everything should be fine as long as you promise them that. “This Christmas present is too expensive. Don’t you think you should get something cheaper?” “What I want is this, even if it’s expensive. Nothing else will do!” “…” In the end, I was one foolish dating guy who bought an expensive Christmas present, but I think there’s room for that kind of foolish man too. Even with a big age gap, you can still become close without necessarily thinking of each other as romantic partners. lol

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. You need to be more confident. Men are attractive when they have confidence. (Men who lack confidence aren’t popular.)

I’m Fullerene, a male member! So, even though it was assumed that she had left the club, she gave herself away by bringing up having new photos taken after hiding her profile. She’s probably thinking, “Oops, I messed up.” > Some people, like you, want to date multiple people, while others want to stay with one person for a long time. That’s entirely about what works for you. Are you confident that you’re offering this woman enough to make her completely satisfied? (Not just financially.) She isn’t your slave. She has the freedom to act as she chooses. I believe the freedom to have one’s own private thoughts is more important than personal information, so I disagree with your position. After all, whether or not it’s true, personal information is relatively objective information that people are generally willing to share. But how someone truly feels deep down is something even their parents and siblings may not know. I think it’s extremely cruel for a third party to expose that. There should definitely be consent obtained when someone joins.

I’m Kazu, a male member. > While some people, like you, want to date multiple people, others want to stay with one person for a long time. Wanting to stay with one person for a long time is a separate issue from trying to find out whether your partner still has a public profile on the dating club. You can’t hide your stalker tendencies behind the claim that you simply want a long-term relationship with one person. Unless you’re a spouse with a legitimate claim to marital fidelity, asking a complete stranger to tell you whether someone is registered with a dating club is, to put it mildly, creepy. And any dating club that would comply with such a request is completely useless, in my opinion. What do you think?

I’m Flag Maker, a columnist. Don’t you think that people who get told things like “You’re the only one” are actually getting the other person to say it without realizing it? Or am I wrong? I’ve never been told that even once (sob). Have you ever met a woman who doesn’t lie? I mean, here at a dating club! lol In a way, being able to lie is what makes it easier to sign up for a dating club with peace of mind. Women are allowed to lie. They’ll be forgiven. Instead of prying into everything, just smile and say “Thanks” anyway—even when there are lies involved. In the end, that’s the quickest way to get the other person to open up. Or, to put it more specifically, even if a lie remains a lie, the trust between two people will definitely grow. Actually, women who never lie tend to be the type who accept everything, so being with them can be exhausting (^_^;) If that’s what you’re looking for, what comes next might be hell.

This is Marika. If that were the case, the overall number of arrangements would probably drop significantly, so it seems like it would be difficult for the company to implement, given the loss in revenue… This is just my impression, but I feel that a small number of popular women handle most of the arrangements, while the remaining few are made up of women who receive offers only sporadically. After all, nearly half of the women leave without receiving any offers, while there are plenty of men who make offers to multiple women.