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Dec 19, 2020 08:52
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🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
Thank you for your question.
> Without hurting that person’s pride…
I don’t think many people like that have much pride in this area, so it should be fine to talk about things like what makes you feel more comfortable or what they could do for you.
That said, I can’t say whether they’ll actually change. If they’re generally a nice person, they may simply not know, so I think it would be best to explain it to them kindly.
On the other hand, if they’re usually harsh or difficult, they probably won’t listen, so I think you’d be better off ending things.
Other
This is Tetsu, a male member.
Realize that thinking you need to change him in the first place is the wrong approach. The reason you feel it’s a shame is simply because you’re judging him by your own values. Everyone has different values, and imposing yours on someone else is just being selfish.
His looks, personality, and the way he is intimate are all part of who he is as a papa. It’s perfectly normal to like some things about someone while disliking others. If there’s something you’d like him to change, try telling him honestly. If he improves, great. If not, you can consider ending the relationship.
🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m column writer Flagmaker.
It’s precisely because there are male members like that that my kindness, as Flagmaker, gives me an edge.
Looking back, though, I’ve learned a lot from various women.
Also, if you go to a men’s esthetic salon, you can experience firsthand that pleasure isn’t just about frantically rubbing someone’s private parts. I recommend going there to learn, too.
That said, men who are willing to learn can improve—but if they’re proud and difficult to deal with, it’s already too late.
Tell them it’s over and put them out of their misery quickly.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kamihikoki, a male member who seems serious, kind, and like a good guy who doesn’t appear to be into women or cheating.
But in reality, all that’s on my mind is exploring women and sex—I’m a total pervert.
You can’t tell whether someone is like that until you’ve been intimate with them, so if he is, you should give up. Since the man you’re asking about has made it this far without paying attention to women’s reactions, I don’t think he’ll change.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
Apparently, the man my dating partner recently accepted an offer from was that kind of guy. They hit it off fairly well, so she was feeling positive and agreed to an adult relationship (intimate), thinking she’d finally found a decent man—but she ended up disappointed in bed. She apparently told him it hurt, and he apologized, but it still hurt afterward.
I think it comes down to whether he was actually paying attention to her reactions. This isn’t the kind of problem that can be fixed just by saying something once, is it?