This is a follow-up to the question about women’s lies.

I’m Fullerene, a male member! > I feel like the fact that female respondents don’t answer may get to the heart of the issue. What do you think? That may be true. > In papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), claiming “I don’t know the first thing about this” when it’s a lie seems particularly blameworthy. I don’t really see it that way. “Trouble-causing,” perhaps, rather than blameworthy… If someone says: “Idols poop marshmallows from their butts!” “I’m from Korin Planet♡” “I came from Cheru-Cheru Land♪” would you really stop and point out, “That’s obviously a lie”? That’s the persona they’ve chosen to play, so sure, you can call out, “No way, that’s a lie!” But ultimately, I feel it just comes down to the man’s conversational skills.

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here. You come across as someone with an exceptionally narrow tolerance. And honestly, I don’t think you’re cut out for dating clubs. You’d probably be better off in some Honest Village somewhere in the world—or in the land of the fairies. I’m guessing you’ve spent most of your life getting angry about one thing after another, and that you’re still angry now, aren’t you? Maybe things really did make you angry when you were younger. But as you gain more life experience, your capacity for tolerance grows. For example, you might lend money to a woman you like because she says she’s struggling financially, only for her to suddenly stop answering your calls. When something like that happens, repeat to yourself about a thousand times: “She was a woman I liked.” If she was someone you’d grown fond of, you’ll eventually think, “It really stings, but I did like her. She was a good woman, so I suppose it couldn’t be helped.” Compared to that kind of real damage, something as minor as “I have no idea what I’m doing” will probably seem almost endearing. It’s the same when a woman tells you, “There are about ten men here, but you’re my favorite.” You’ll think to yourself, “You say that to the other guys too, don’t you?”—but still find it cute. First, place much more importance on the fact that you liked her. Once you’ve grown fond of someone, you have to accept that some things simply can’t be helped. Being able to think that way—that’s what it means to be a real man. You still have a lot to learn. Keep working on yourself.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. I don’t mind being lied to because I think I can tell when someone isn’t being truthful. I haven’t met that many women through offers, but after talking with them a few times, I gradually started to get a sense of what was true and what wasn’t. Or rather, both they and I eventually began speaking more honestly. It’s not that I grill them, but as the conversation progresses, they may start saying things like, “I wonder why…” or “Do you really think so?” or try to change the subject. When that happens, I tell myself that they must be in a situation where they feel they have to say those things, and I accept it. Unfortunately, though, I haven’t been able to develop an ongoing relationship with people like that.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. When it comes to what women say while being paid to talk to you, it’s probably okay to assume that almost 100% of it could be lies… If you really get down to the truth, it might all be 100% a misunderstanding on the man’s part. Women often embellish what they say to please the other person, put them at ease, or boost their confidence. So if you listen while assuming it’s only half true—or a third, a tenth, or even a hundredth true—you may start to see the reality. Whether it’s lies, makeup, or clothes, women are meant to adorn themselves… It’s like asking your opponent what they’re going to throw in rock-paper-scissors.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I don’t like lies that cause trouble because they make things complicated, but otherwise, they don’t bother me since they don’t affect me. Saying, “I don’t know the first thing about this,” wouldn’t cause any trouble for me, so I wouldn’t mind it. Everyone perceives and thinks about things differently, so even if the questioner feels differently from the person answering, it’s probably enough to simply think, “We see it differently,” and leave it at that.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. Doesn’t hearing lies from women in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) get you excited? Or is it just me? lol I get really excited imagining the moment, after we’ve gotten close, when she starts gradually confessing during pillow talk. Ideally, with my generous, gentlemanly hospitality, I’d like to lead her to confess on her own, naturally and spontaneously. In that sense, the lies and contradictions in their profiles feel like seasoning to me. It sounds pretty creepy when I put it into words.