I’d like to hear everyone’s opinions on allowances.
All the men I’ve met so far have given me ⑤ in allowance for a meal plus about four hours at a hotel total, and for overnight stays, they’ve given me twice that amount. If we stayed for two nights, it was ×②.
I recently met someone for the first time, and we ended things with dinner only (no intimacy). We’re planning to meet next time for an adult relationship (intimate), but he asked me to stay with him until morning. When I asked how much allowance I would receive, he said ⑤.
Of course, if we can’t agree on the terms, we simply don’t have to pursue the arrangement.
There may not be an average allowance, but what would you do in this situation?
I’d like to hear both men’s and women’s opinions.
I’m Tetsu, a male member.
I don’t think there’s really such a thing as an average allowance. More importantly, I’ve stopped worrying about it. When I first started using a dating club, I cared about the average too, but the idea of an “average” is pretty abstract to begin with. Even if you enter into an adult relationship (intimate) for what’s supposedly the average allowance, it’s a waste if the outcome leaves you unsatisfied.
As you mentioned, if both people aren’t comfortable with the terms, they simply shouldn’t pursue the relationship. That’s the answer.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
Don’t focus on market rates or averages—judge each man on his own merits (^_^;)
If you get too hung up on the going rate, you’ll eventually end up making a mistake.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
Maezawa from the president’s office will answer as well.
Thank you for your question.
If you weren’t satisfied after hearing the allowance amount, I think it’s perfectly fine to turn him down by saying something like:
“I’m sorry, but I’m a little uncomfortable with staying overnight.”
I think you should continue seeing him as before, without staying over. If he’s perceptive, he may realize that the allowance was the reason, but even if he asks, I think it’s fine to be vague about it.
He’d probably be disappointed if you told him directly that it was because of the allowance.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member who stayed over at his girlfriend’s place again last night—and nearly had his cheeks fall off because her home cooking was so delicious.
You seem to be a popular, highly sought-after, wonderful person.
It hardly sounds like you need to ask anything…
Personally, I’d turn down Mr. Kanegon Gon. Please date men whose style suits your own.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I’m not the type to want someone to stay until morning unless I’m really into her. So, if it were me, I’d decline any overnight stay until I knew what she was like in private, regardless of the amount of allowance involved. If a woman I’m spending the night with for the first time asked before anything happened whether she could stay over, it would be a turnoff.
In my case, I don’t increase the allowance just because she stays over. That said, if she’s someone I’m close enough to genuinely want to stay, I’ll quietly do things like give her several sets of lingerie costing ¥100,000 each, or tag along as her wallet for outings that cost tens of thousands of yen over a few hours.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
