Before making an offer, I ask the club whether a woman has received any offers and what kind of feedback they’ve gotten. Occasionally, when I meet a woman for a first meeting who the club told me had received offers before, she lies and says, “I’ve never received an offer before—this is my first one!”

I’m Maezawa from the president’s office, and I’ll answer this one too. Thank you for your question. It’s possible that this really was her first date. When she said she’d received an “offer,” she may have simply received a date offer that fell through because your schedules didn’t match. Or perhaps she had received offers, but the dates with the other men were scheduled after yours, making this her first actual date. People’s understanding of how far the term “offer” extends can vary. Also, clubs used to have a rule not to tell men how many offers a woman had received, out of consideration for allowing women to lie if necessary. Somehow, though, it became acceptable to disclose only when the number was zero. Now the situation seems to be that you shouldn’t state the exact number, but it’s fine to say whether it’s a lot or a little. Why would the club think it’s okay for women to lie? Because there are men who ask questions like yours. (Laughs) It’s difficult to know how a woman should answer. Suppose a woman said, “I’ve received offers from around 300 men.” The man might think, “I’d rather meet someone who seems more inexperienced.” So even men can understand that saying you’ve received a lot of offers can be risky. But then, how many counts as “a few”? That seems to be the difficult part. That may be why some women end up saying it’s their first time, as in this case. My guess is that she had probably received only one or two actual offers. If she had received five or six, I imagine she might have said, “I haven’t received many,” rather than claiming it was her first time. And a woman who had received more than ten offers would probably give yet another answer. Besides, I’m not really sure how asking how many offers she has received is supposed to affect your relationship going forward, or what you’re trying to learn by asking. If you become closer, she’ll probably bring it up naturally. Asking right at the beginning makes me wonder whether you’re someone who doesn’t have much else to talk about. I’d much rather see you build a connection by talking about something more enjoyable.

I’m Kazu, a male member. That’s such a pointless lie. Personally, I’d consider it lucky to be the second or third person approached, once I know how things work, rather than the first offer while I’m still trying to get the hang of it.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. So who’s the liar?? (You piss-weak coward?) If you don’t like it, have the courage to make an offer without asking any questions—take a chance and show some guts.

I’m Fullerene, a male member! Because “You’re the 101st person” would leave a worse impression than “You’re my first,” wouldn’t it? I think lying is just part of the game. What’s the harm? Do you really think that once you’ve been doing this longer and met more women, you’ll tell them, “You’re the 251st”? People also often lie about someone they met through a dating club, saying, “I met them on an app before,” for example. Well, I suppose all you can do is play along with the lies. Also, some people may not have realized that there’s an information imbalance between men and women at dating clubs.