About the three women I’m seeing on an ongoing basis: lately, when we’re having pillow talk after sex, their replies have become vague. When I ask, “Are you getting sleepy?” they say, “Yeah,” so I leave the bed and kill time by watching TV for about an hour (crying). After that, they’re in a good mood while we eat and drink, they send me a thank-you message, and we make plans to meet again later. My question is: What do you think of my behavior? Am I being too considerate? Should I act more according to my own pace? Are they getting bored with what I have to say? As the song goes, “Once you’ve held her, she turns over and drifts off into dreamland all by herself...” lol. I’d appreciate your thoughts.

Maezawa from the CEO’s Office will answer as well. Thank you for your question. > What do you think of my behavior? I think it’s fine. In fact, I think it would be even better if you continue as you have been. I think a woman falling asleep is a sign that she trusts the man. It may also be because she enjoyed the intimate time. Either way, she probably sees you as someone she can feel safe with. Some people even say that they take a nap together after being intimate. Spending a relaxed, peaceful time together like that seems nice too.

I’m a male member, Fullerene! > I spend about an hour away from the bed watching TV and killing time (crying). Wait, why the (crying)? Isn’t that pretty normal…? If anything, I sometimes even start working at my desk. I sleep too, and quite a lot of women sleep as well. In fact, I might not have met anyone who didn’t sleep at least once. Some of them snore loudly, but isn’t that cute too? Actually, it’s really cute. My oxytocin is at full blast. So I just let them sleep. They might be forcing themselves to sleep because they think it’ll be easier that way (crying). If they sleep so long that it looks like it might interfere with whatever we’re doing next, I wake them up by saying: “It’s time to eat.” “It’s almost time for the last train.” Oh, something like this happened once too. When I was leaving a woman at the hotel and heading home first, I told her, “I’m going to head out first.” Still half-asleep, she asked, “What about my allowance?” “I left it over there,” I replied, then left. Ten minutes later, I went back to the room to pick up something I’d forgotten, but she was still sleeping soundly. So I quietly retrieved my belongings without waking her and left. Apparently, she really was exhausted that time.

I’m Kazu, a male member. It’s interesting that all three of them do that, but I take it to mean they’re women who get sleepy after sex. I don’t have any particular thoughts on it—I just thought, “So there are couples like that.” That said, it reminded me of something shocking a woman told me the other day: apparently, women get sleepy when the sex isn’t very good. After hearing that from someone I’m seeing, I found it so interesting that I asked two other women to see if it was true—and they both said the same thing: they get sleepy. Even if that were the case, the person you’re seeing feels comfortable enough with you to fall asleep beside you, so I think that’s perfectly fine. Rather than trying to do something unnecessary and making things complicated, wouldn’t it be better to enjoy the relationship as it is now—so much so that you’re practically humming to yourself? Reading everyone’s answers, I’m surprised how often women fall asleep. There have been several times when the mood was right for her to stay over, we lounged around, and we both ended up dozing off. But I’ve never had the experience of only the woman falling asleep. Maybe my sex isn’t good enough to make her tired. (Tears)

I’m a male member, “Paper Airplane.” The few minutes, several dozen minutes, or even hour after either person climaxes can be a particularly important and special time at a dating club. If you’re not on the same wavelength during that time, it can feel pretty empty… From what you’ve described, perhaps you should focus on making yourself so satisfied that you don’t even feel like talking afterward. I imagine that, in many cases, women may feel uneasy when a man starts talking immediately afterward, depending on what he says. If you both climax, I think you can simply stay close and bask in the afterglow without needing to say a word during pillow talk. Also, if she doesn’t come over to be near you afterward and instead pretends to sleep, I imagine there may be some reason she doesn’t want to get close—such as wanting to keep conversation to a minimum. > Kazu That’s true. Nothing makes you sleepy like boring sex. Men can even doze off when oral sex drags on and on… P.S. As the person who asked the question, I think that rather than watching TV alone, you’d be better off leaving the hotel and going out somewhere. It’ll help you reset your mood, and it can be quite enjoyable in its own way. Keep the sex focused and brief, and I think you can enjoy the afterglow together wherever you go. Visiting one fun place after another will create even more lasting memories. Just try not to part ways right away.