Every time, the other person comes on incredibly strong for about the first month after we meet, but then they tend to lose interest soon after…

I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer as well. Thank you for your question. I don’t think it’s exactly a matter of having a “male brain.” That said, when some relationships last a long time while others end because the man loses interest after about a month, I feel there’s probably a reason for it. The most likely possibility is that she doesn’t seem to enjoy herself much during intimacy. At first, he may be attracted to her appearance or figure, but if she stays silent during intimacy, he may start thinking after about a month, “Maybe I should look for someone else.” The next possibility is her personality. At first, he may think she’s a good woman, but after a while he starts feeling that she doesn’t really like him and is only meeting him for the money. That realization seems to come around the one-month mark. This is more about the overall atmosphere. If she gives off the impression that she isn’t enjoying seeing him and is only interested in the money, he may stop wanting to meet her after about a month, regardless of how she actually feels. Another possibility is conversation. If the conversation doesn’t really flow or she doesn’t respond when he asks her something, he may initially think it’s just a coincidence. But after about a month, he may realize it’s not a one-off, decide that it isn’t very enjoyable, and start looking for someone else. There may be other reasons as well, but it might be helpful to check yourself against these points.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. I understand the point of your question well. Because money is involved in dating clubs, people naturally seek the most efficient use of their money. As a result, I think we mustn’t forget that both men and women are always dating while fighting against numerous unseen competitors. People sometimes say on this Q&A site that they “get distracted by other options,” and I have to admit, I think that’s true. If you’re receiving offers, I assume you’re probably more attractive than most others. Being rejected after people have met you is another matter, so I imagine there must be some reason for it. Is it the conversation? The adult relationship (intimate) itself? The allowance? Why not review those aspects again as you continue your activities? When using a dating club, I think it’s best to establish a “style” that plays to your strengths—or one you can realistically maintain—and find an arrangement that feels comfortable for you. P.S. You may be thinking, “What do you mean by ‘style’? That’s way too vague!” So here’s a specific strategy. First, regarding conversation: I don’t think many people fail to maintain an arrangement solely because of conversation. However, for the second and third meetings, switch to different topics from before, observe their reactions, and take the role of listener when you find topics they respond well to. Next, regarding the adult relationship (intimate): I don’t know what your approach has been up to now, but treat the first meeting as one round, the second as two rounds, and the third as three rounds, gradually increasing both the number of rounds and the level of technique. As for the allowance, use the first meeting as your baseline, then reduce it by ○○○ for the second meeting and by another ○○○ for the third. In other words, return part of the allowance you received, and see how long the arrangement lasts. You could also say from the beginning that you’re hoping for a long-term arrangement, then negotiate while gradually finding a point of compromise that works for both of you. If you put all of this into practice, you’re bound to find some kind of middle ground. Best of luck.

I’m a male member named Fulleren! I think the problem is that they get bored of you quickly. If a man isn’t getting anything from the relationship that makes it worth continuing, then the arrangement won’t continue. Is it the way you respond to his feelings? The gap between your appearance and personality? How satisfying the adult relationship (intimate) is? Or perhaps the level of the allowance? Both men and women are constantly being compared to invisible competitors of the same gender, after all.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. Men are hunters, too, so it’s quite rare for them to be enthusiastic about meeting a woman a third time after the first two meetings. If you want to meet him three or more times a month, you’ll need him to be very interested in you. As for replying to his messages, I think it’s fine to do so at your own pace. Keep him interested and gently lead him along, matching your level of enthusiasm to his.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I know it may be unavoidable since I’m a man, but does “tending to get bored with someone” mean the relationship doesn’t last? In my case, I can’t continue seeing someone unless I enjoy talking with her and the sex is good. I already have a partner I enjoy both talking and having sex with, so if I don’t enjoy the conversation, there won’t be a second meeting. If the sex isn’t good, I usually move on after around the third to fifth meeting. I once met a woman again two days after our first date because both the conversation and sex were good from the start. But even though we started seeing each other more often, I never made any declarations of love.