I’m a male member.

I’m a male member, Fullerene! > Do you tell them you won’t be meeting anymore and end things, or do you let the relationship fade out naturally? I do both. When I tell them directly, I’ve used lines like: “I’ve decided to quit papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).” “I’m moving overseas for a while.” > Even if you don’t contact them first, how do you respond when they invite you to meet? Just repeat twice, “I’m busy with work and can’t make time this month.” Don’t reply with anything else. That means you won’t see each other for two months, and about 80% will give up. You can tell the remaining 20% after that. If they’re also seeing multiple people at the same time, I think telling them you’ll be “busy” is necessary so they have time to prepare to move on to someone else. By the way, I also manage things by the number of time slots. But I don’t really want to fill every slot, and the number of slots changes from month to month, so it probably fluctuates between around 4 and 12 meetings per month. I can add more slots if requested. So I’m especially grateful to those who can go along with these fluctuations. I appreciate their generosity in being happy to keep things going casually over the long term. For me, becoming comfortable enough to use casual speech right away is a sign that we’re compatible. I also like girls who use proper polite language, but they tend to be chosen by even better papas.

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here. Thank you for your question. I think most relationships simply fade away naturally, but many people also find that the woman they were seeing suddenly stops replying.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. As expected, you’re all doing great. My experience has been the complete opposite. Even when I invite someone out, it often takes forever to get a reply—or I’m simply ignored. The other day, I even got stood up. And even when I make an offer, it ultimately turns into requests for advice or fortune-telling. My second time around with a dating club has been a total disaster, lol. I’m always happy to accept a last-minute invitation from a woman. In fact, I keep my schedule unnecessarily open just in case one of my favorites suddenly invites me out. Seriously, am I even registered with the same dating club as all of you? lol Basically, I never get invited by them, so if I don’t reach out first, things usually just end there. (crying)

I’m a male member named Basil. Rather than saying it outright, I wait for things to naturally fade out. I go on dates almost every weekend, with the occasional weekday added in, so it’s a little over five dates a month. Since I also meet new women, I feel that around three regulars is the right number for me. If I’ve taken on too many and someone falls out of my favorites, I stop inviting her myself. If she reaches out, I’ll meet her if our schedules work—but if something else comes up, I cancel. After that happens a few times, she usually gets the hint, and it comes to an end.

I’m Kazu, a male member. For me, it’s less about a maximum number of women and more about a maximum number of time slots. I imagine that’s true for many people as well. If my schedule really requires it, I’ll make plans with two people in one day, but the pace I find most comfortable is meeting two women a week. That gives me eight slots a month. A-san has a minimum amount she wants to receive each month, so I work backward from that and meet her every week. That fills four slots. With B-san, I had been meeting her once a month because that seemed like the most comfortable pace for her. However, when we met recently, she told me that her income from work had decreased due to COVID and asked if we could meet twice a month. C-san lives far away, so I meet her about once a month. That brings me to seven of my eight monthly slots. The women I see regularly usually decide on the date of our next meeting while we’re together. These days, about five women are competing for that one remaining slot. After I make an offer and go on the first date, I generally don’t message them first. Based on how the messages go after the date, I meet again with the women who manage to secure one of my slots. So I don’t explicitly tell anyone that I won’t be seeing them anymore. Sometimes things simply fade out naturally. Since the women generally invite me rather than the other way around, when I have no open slots left and don’t feel like adding an extra slot to my schedule, I say, “My schedule is pretty packed for the time being, so I probably won’t be able to meet anytime soon. I’m sorry.” Some women invite me again after about a month has passed. When someone has invited me several times, I try to make an effort to add an extra slot so I can respond to her feelings.

I’m Kamihikōki, a male member. As a rule, I leave invitations on read, whether I’ve met someone just once or many times. That said, there are some women I like and would prefer to stay connected with, even if they’re currently too far down the list for me to meet because I can only see a limited number of people. In those cases, I reach out every few months or so and keep in touch without meeting. If they invite me out, I put it off by saying I’m busy or using reasons like COVID.