I’d especially like to hear from anyone who has met me in person.
Since starting university, I’ve never once had anyone properly confess their feelings to me.
What am I doing wrong?
People often say, “If you don’t meet anyone, it’s hard to get a boyfriend,” but the environment I’m in is overwhelmingly male-dominated.
I’ve been invited several times to go on drives or trips as friends, either one-on-one or in small groups (with me being the only woman), but no one has ever asked me on a date (; ;)
People also say things like, “It’s because you don’t make the first move,” or “Men find it hard to approach women who seem unapproachable.” But even when I try making casual advances myself (just sending them a LINE message or something), they brush me off.
When I’m walking around town, I often see women who make me think, “Yeah, I can see why men would find her hard to approach (in a good way),” yet they usually have a handsome boyfriend by their side.
I feel so sad when I think that I must really be lacking in charm as a woman.
I’ve been overthinking this so much that I feel like I’m going to become depressed, so I’d really appreciate your advice.
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this too.
Thank you for your question.
To be completely blunt, I think Papuwa is the type who’ll become popular a little later on.
That said, people who get confessed to usually start getting confessions one after another from around middle school, while others hardly ever get confessed to at all.
But that doesn’t mean they aren’t liked. It simply means people don’t confess their feelings to them. They can still find a partner, so I don’t think you need to worry too much.
If you were attending a university in Tokyo, you might be extremely popular by now.
It’s not about your attractiveness as a woman. There just aren’t many people noticing you at the moment.
Still, I think plenty of people do notice you. And it seems like your time to shine will come a little later.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I’ve never met Papuwa-san, so I’m sorry, but this is just a guess.
Since you’re registered with Universe Club and have even received offers, I don’t think you lack appeal as a woman. If men are willing to pay the setting fee and an allowance to meet you, you must have enough appeal for them to want to see you.
You said, “I’ve never been properly confessed to,” but I feel that people only really “confess” their feelings up through their school years. By the latter half of your twenties, I think most people just end up having sex, dating, and even moving in together naturally, without anyone formally saying anything. At least, when I was in university, I never confessed to a woman at my school and started dating her that way. I would just end up having sex with women from other universities and things would develop from there. So perhaps it’s best to think of confessing your feelings and officially starting a relationship as something people do up through high school. University students may do it too, but I think you can simply regard them as people who happen to do things that way.
As an aside, I can’t help feeling that there’s some kind of sampling error in your observation that women who seem “difficult for men to approach, in a good way” usually have a boyfriend beside them.
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