I’m a dating club member.

I’m a male member, Fullerene! This is just my guess, but rather than offering dates to meet them yourself, perhaps you’re mainly responding when they ask you things like, “Are you available on such-and-such a day?” So although you’re fully booked at the moment, you’re not necessarily satisfied, which is why you’ve already decided to make offers to new people. Sometimes you accommodate each person’s requests, while other times you turn them down—is that about right? If so, one way to figure out how you really feel might be to rank them by “number of meetings minus number of rejections.”

I’m Tetsu, a male member. So you’ve reached your limit, in a sense. The fact that you like all of them also means that none of them really stands out. In other words, the woman you currently consider your favorite isn’t truly number one either. If there were someone you were completely hooked on, you wouldn’t be struggling with this in the first place. That being the case, the three women you’re seeing now are all pretty much equal, and I don’t think it would make much difference which one you stopped seeing. If it were me, I’d reduce how often I met those three and use that time to increase the number of new people I met—fourth, fifth, and so on. I think that would give me a better chance of finding someone I really clicked with. You mentioned your own mental health, but honestly, I don’t understand why you would ask a woman about things that could damage your mental well-being in the future. It seems much simpler not to ask about her private life in the first place.

Maezawa from the president’s office here. Thank you for your question. The best thing to do is not to look at the members’ page. (笑) If you don’t look, you won’t feel tempted to make an offer. It’s nice that you want to contribute to Universe’s sales, though. (笑) You should open the members’ page when your current three become two. Otherwise, what you’re saying becomes contradictory—especially the part where you say, “They’re all good women.” If you’re saying from the start that you’re on a journey to find the best possible woman, then that means the three you’re currently seeing aren’t quite the best. In that case, I imagine you’d gradually fade out when you found someone better. So, my advice is to continue as you are until you start feeling dissatisfied with the three you’re seeing now. If that’s difficult, perhaps the best option is simply to reduce how often you meet them.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. That’s a good question. > I’m currently seeing three girls, and they’re all lovely. I’m glad to hear you have good relationships with them. But having three is quite a luxury. I only have one myself. > How do you decide which relationships to continue and how to handle the others? It’s simple: just don’t make any offers. I completely understand being tempted by other girls. This is a perfect opportunity to develop the patience not to make an offer. It’s also good spiritual training for an adult. If you do that, the girls gradually come to understand the situation and stop drifting away… which is also a wonderful thing. I recommend it. If the girl you’re tempted by is surely a good one, just hope that someone else will look after her. > I wish I could earn more myself. Of course, earning money is important. But rather than using part of what you earn to get involved with various girls, I think it’s better to provide as much support as possible to the girl you’re already seeing, so she can become independent sooner.

This is Marika. Hmm. If all the girls are equally important to you, you could stop seeing the ones who seem likely to have other papas. Alternatively, you could set priorities and reduce how often you meet the girls who rank second or third. That said, you don’t have to force it. Over time, you’ll naturally see who you do and don’t click with, and you’ll probably end up with a favorite.

I’m Hikoki, a male member. This question feels like it was written about me, so I really appreciate it. I’m having a hard time cutting ties with people too, so I’d like to use the answers as a reference. (Though if that’s the case, I probably shouldn’t be answering...) For me, the first girl is a clear favorite. I’d be fine with seeing only her, and I make her my top priority and meet her often. Then I have three or four girls in second and third place whom I’d like to keep seeing, but with some of them, I feel I should reduce the frequency or take things a little easier... Yet whenever they contact me, I end up meeting them anyway... Ranking them from first through fourth or fifth is easy enough, but I find it really difficult to distance myself from anyone beyond that. To give my own answer: The amazing thing about the club is that even the three girls you consider your top three can suddenly drop to the very bottom when you meet someone wonderful—or someone who suits you even better. I haven’t actually cut ties with them, but I no longer feel like seeing them. When someone who’s truly the perfect fit comes along, the rankings naturally shift dramatically, just like the seating order on some quiz show. And even on those quiz shows, there are occasionally people who remain firmly in first place while everyone from second place downward keeps changing rapidly. I’d love to find someone who could be that kind of permanent number one.