Maezawa from the CEO’s Office will answer as well.
Thank you for your question.
> How do you spend your time after the meal?
I believe this was explained during your interview, but after enjoying the meal together, when it feels like dinner is about to end, it’s common for the papa to invite you to an adult relationship in some way, such as:
“Would an allowance of ○ be okay after this?”
or
“Shall we go to a hotel after this?”
(Type A is an exception. Type B should technically be separate as well, but I think many men will still make the invitation as a kind of feeler.)
That’s why, from the moment you meet, you need to observe the other person and listen to the way they speak, deciding whether they’re someone you’d be comfortable spending the day with and whether they might pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do.
Also, many men don’t mention the allowance when inviting you, so one option is to remain vague and noncommittal until the other person brings up the allowance.
It’s better to avoid going into a room without discussing anything, but I’ve heard that bringing up the allowance yourself can also be difficult.
If the other person doesn’t pick up on the hint and never mentions the allowance, it’s best to assume that you’ll simply part ways after dinner.
I’m Tetsu, a male member.
A French prix-fixe dinner? That sounds nice（笑）. If he’s a decent male member, I don’t think he’s expecting an adult relationship. A full course meal would take at least two hours, and with people around, I doubt he’d bring up that kind of topic while eating French cuisine. My guess is that he’ll have a casual drink after dinner and then say goodbye.
If things were going to lead to an adult relationship after dinner, it would probably take more than four hours. Bringing it up at the dinner table would also be rather tactless. Basically, you can tell whether a male member is respectable by how he uses his time and so on. I think you should use that as a basis for deciding whether to continue seeing him.
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
In my case, with A or B types (occasionally C types too), we’ll have a meal for anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour and 20 minutes on the first date, then call it a day. If she’d like to spend a little more time together, we’ll go to a bar. If she wants to enjoy ourselves a bit longer, we might go for a drive, go shopping, visit an arcade, or sing karaoke. And if she still wants to stay together after that, we’ll head to a place for drinks, a spa, or a hotel.
For a first date with a C type, we’ll usually enjoy a meal and drinks at a bar for one to two hours, then go to a hotel. Occasionally, we’ll do one of the activities mentioned above in between.
As for the allowance, I may ask about it online. If we haven’t discussed it beforehand, there are three possible times to bring it up—after the meal, at the hotel, or when we’re saying goodbye—depending on the girl’s vibe and the mood at the time. Including discussing it online, that makes four possibilities.
P.S. I’d prefer it if she didn’t make any plans afterward on the first date, so we can enjoy it as a proper first date and leave it as a good memory…
We meet, take a long drive, have lunch, go shopping, do a little sightseeing, go to a hotel, buy ingredients on the way back, and then I cook for her at her place, where we toast with wine… Wait, how long is this supposed to go on?
By the way, during the drive, the woman is usually fast asleep in the car, so the moment we arrive, she’s completely refreshed… Women, huh? When the first date ends up lasting six or seven hours…
I’m Kazu, a male member.
In my case, things usually go like this:
**A and B types, first meeting:** We have dinner for about two hours, then go our separate ways. (Depending on the person, they may invite you for tea or drinks for another couple of hours after dinner.)
**B types from the second meeting onward, and C and D types:** We have dinner for about two hours, and around dessert, we discuss post-dinner companionship. If we agree on the allowance terms, we move to a hotel and spend about two hours there.
One important thing to remember that day is to agree on the allowance terms for post-dinner companionship before going to the hotel. Apparently, quite a few men try to let things unfold without clearly discussing it first.
