I signed up for a letter date.

Maezawa from the President’s Office here as well. Thank you for your question. > I replied, “We’ll work around your preferred location and schedule, so please let me know when it’s convenient for you.” That’s far too passive. You’re missing the basics. What is the staff at your branch even doing? Honestly… Only women who understand men’s psychology well will give you a clear schedule when you simply ask them to tell you what day works for them. Most women will have trouble responding if you ask that way. In situations like this, it’s better to narrow it down to two possible options, such as: “Would you be available to meet on the evening of Thursday, December 10, or during the day on Saturday, December 12?” It’s much easier to reply when they only have to say whether or not one of those dates works. And even if neither works, there may be another time on the same day that would be fine. So first, wait for her reply, then ask which dates don’t work and whether another time might be possible. Also, were you communicating by email? If possible, you should switch to LINE or something similar. Many women find checking email bothersome and don’t check it very often. If you can move the conversation to LINE early on, that would be better. Even if you are communicating by email, the staff may be able to step in and help. The staff may simply be too busy at the moment, but if it were me, I might intervene by saying things like: “Oh, really? I’ll ask her whether she’s been checking her email.” Or: “Was there something wrong with what the man wrote?” “Oh? Did she dislike being asked to meet so suddenly? I understand. I’ll tell him to have a more casual conversation first before asking her out.” I can’t say for sure without knowing the woman’s dating preferences, but if the staff at your branch aren’t very helpful, you can contact me directly using the link below, and I’ll see what I can do. (笑) https://universe-club.jp/help/contact/ That said, I feel like you may get a reply if you wait a little longer. It might also be worth sending an additional message along the lines of what I wrote above.

I’m in Seattle. I think you should send them the dates that work for you. If she’s popular, you might keep getting pushed back until a free day finally opens up. And even if they stop responding after this, I guess it can’t really be helped since the offer fee is so low.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. When you’re waiting for a letter, even half a day, a few hours, or a few dozen minutes can feel incredibly long. I understand how you feel. But didn’t the letter exchange only start on December 1? In that case, let’s wait and let her respond at her own pace. Are you matching her pace in your messages? You can quickly tell what kind of person someone is from the tone of their messages. Also, you were the one who wanted to exchange letters, while she probably wasn’t. If she’s popular and getting flooded with offers, how exhausting must it be for her to keep up with all these messages? You need to make at least some effort to read her feelings from the way she communicates. Actually, I’ve only been exchanging letters since the day before yesterday… Apparently, people can decide whether you’re a good person after just one or two brief greetings. I think it’s extremely important not to make the woman feel burdened, pressured, tired, distrustful, or bothered. Unlike online interactions, where everything can be settled right away, things aren’t that simple. That’s part of the appeal, though—you get to enjoy an exciting feeling you haven’t experienced in a long time. Don’t forget that you’ve already achieved your primary goal of exchanging contact information, while she hasn’t achieved her primary goal of meeting up and receiving an allowance at all.

I’m a confused person in my 60s, and I’m already five months into a letter (email) date—well ahead of everyone else here. Excuse me, but I couldn’t help wondering: what exactly is the questioner doing? The woman is telling you she’ll work around your schedule, yet you’re responding, “I’ll work around yours”… At that rate, you’ll never actually make plans, lol. If I were the woman, I’d decide that you’re a man who can’t take the lead and cut off contact after all. This isn’t just a problem with letter dating.

I’m Kazu, a male member. The other day, I made an offer to a B-type woman. We had dinner on our first date and exchanged contact information. After we exchanged thank-you messages, I invited her on another date, but she hasn’t replied since. I understand that this kind of risk comes with making an offer, but is it really acceptable to lose contact altogether after simply having dinner? Let’s say someone asked a question like that. What would you think? Personally, I find both questions rather pathetic.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. This letter date is a little puzzling. I don’t understand what these initial letters are supposed to be for, either. It seems similar to the offer from a foreigner mentioned in an earlier question.（笑）