A man who earns 50 million yen a year always wants to see me. But if I receive an allowance of 50,000 yen every time he wants to meet, it adds up to quite a lot.
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He told me, “After all, our relationship is about money.”
That’s true, but I wouldn’t keep meeting someone I disliked either.
What would be the best way to respond without hurting his feelings…?
I’m Fullerene, a male member!
I tried coming up with a question too, like Megumi did.
However, I interpreted it a little differently. Sorry if I got it wrong—I may have added details on my own.
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“I’m always being asked to meet by a man who earns 50 million yen a year.
He gives me an allowance of 5 on a pay-per-meeting basis, so if I meet him whenever he asks, it would add up to a considerable amount of money.
I feel a little guilty, and honestly, a bit scared too.
The other day, when he gave me my allowance, he said, ‘We’re just in a relationship for the money anyway.’
Apparently, he’s sulking.
It’s true that ours is a relationship for the money, but he wants something more and keeps showing me how much he likes me.
I wouldn’t keep meeting someone I disliked, but I’m starting to feel that this is a bit too much for me.
It’s difficult to meet him all the time.
What would be the best way to respond so that we can continue seeing each other while maintaining a comfortable distance…?”
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How does that sound?
I think the questioner is probably a very kind person, but you could always just say, “I like you~” and secretly stick your tongue out behind his back.
That said, the situation could gradually head in an unexpected direction, and if even one thing doesn’t match his expectations, he may eventually cut you off.
I feel it might be a good idea to think carefully once again about what you want to gain from this relationship, and by when.
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I’m Kamihikoki, a male member.
It’s best to meet as often as you can.
If you don’t meet, that money may end up being spent on someone else—or on meeting new girls instead. Having the questioner be the one he spends it on could be the secret to making things last longer.
You could say that meeting too often might make him lose interest, but I think giving him time to meet other girls—or new ones—actually increases the chances that he’ll become interested in someone else and say goodbye.
As for “It’s just a relationship involving money,” that could actually mean his feelings run deep—he wants to spend a lot on you and see you all the time. There’s a good chance you’re someone he really favors.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
Thank you for your question.
It would help to know a little more of the conversation before and after that comment.
For example, if you asked:
“I usually receive 50,000 yen, which is quite a substantial amount. Are you sure that’s okay?”
and he replied:
“We’re in a relationship based on money anyway, so don’t worry about it.”
then I don’t think it was really something as hurtful as “he said that to me.” I think he simply meant that you shouldn’t worry about it.
In response, you could say something like:
“When you put it that way, it makes me sad. Even if money is involved, I wouldn’t meet someone I didn’t like.”
That might work well.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I think the point of your question is whether he may be too detached. Regardless of his income, it probably comes down to his approach to relationships.
Many men at dating clubs have plenty of money set aside for dating, so they tend to actively pursue the women they particularly like.
I don’t know how long you’ve been seeing each other, but unless he finds—or is approached by—a new favorite, or simply gets bored, I think the current situation will probably continue.
If you feel things are a little too detached, you might consider suggesting a different arrangement, such as dinner only (no intimacy).
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
Try imagining what would happen if that papa disappeared.
He earns 50 million yen a year, gives you a 50,000-yen pay-per-meeting allowance, you don’t dislike him, and he frequently wants to see you.
That sounds like a pretty great arrangement to me.
Some female members might find this question a little irritating, don’t you think? lol
Personally, I think you should treasure this papa and happily go along with him without hesitation. If you’re still hesitating, though, maybe you actually don’t like him?
Rather than worrying about how to reply to this papa, why not first take some time to sort out your own approach to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
He doesn’t seem like a bad papa, so I think you should just continue seeing him without overthinking it. I’ve heard that some men simply enjoy spending money (lol). Your papa might be that type.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
That’s a very difficult question to understand. Does the poster meet this man every time he asks to see her? Does she receive an allowance each time they meet? Does she want to continue seeing this man earning 50 million yen a year?
Wouldn’t it be enough to reply, “That’s certainly true, but I wouldn’t keep meeting someone I disliked, either”?
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