My papa (a male supporter) and I have met four times for an adult relationship (intimate), but this time he gave me ¥10,000 less in allowance than usual.
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He always gives it to me in an envelope, and the amount was the same the previous three times. But the fourth time, there was ¥10,000 less inside.
How should I interpret this? Would it be okay to point it out?
I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.
I honestly don’t understand what you mean by “lowering the allowance without permission.” It’s completely incomprehensible to me—I can’t imagine doing something like that.
Since there’s always a chance the amount was put in the envelope incorrectly, you could choose to ask her the next time you meet.
Personally, I wouldn’t want to handle money through LINE or anything like that.
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Yokoyama from the staff here as well.
As others have mentioned, I think there’s a good chance he reduced the amount without telling you.
Since you successfully agreed on that amount once, I would naturally assume that amount would apply next time too.
If you decide to meet again, it might be a good idea to confirm the amount beforehand. If that leads to an argument, I think it would be fine to part ways.
That said, if you’re satisfied with the amount, I don’t think you need to say anything.
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Maezawa from the President’s Office will answer this one as well.
Thank you for your question.
He probably lowered the allowance without telling you. It’s also possible that he’s waiting to see how things play out before deciding what to do next.
If the woman didn’t say anything, he might assume she was okay with the lower amount and continue giving her ¥10,000 less in the future. Or, he might think she was a good woman for not complaining and return to the original amount next time.
If she brings it up, he might say, “Oh, really? Maybe I forgot to include it. I’ll pay you next time,” and then come up with an excuse to stop seeing her—meaning he’d be willing to meet her for the lower allowance, but not for the original amount.
Etc.
There are several possibilities, so it’s impossible to know which one applies. But I think you should start by asking:
“I was given ¥10,000 less than usual for the allowance…”
Depending on his response, you’ll also have a chance to decide whether you still want to see him despite the reduced allowance.
When you bring it up, I think it would be better not to sound accusatory. Ask in a way that leaves room for the possibility that he simply misunderstood or made a mistake.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
Maybe there was a misunderstanding, maybe the allowance was reduced, or maybe she didn’t have enough cash on hand.
You should definitely confirm what happened the next time you meet. If the allowance was reduced, you need to discuss it and make sure you both agree first.
If she doesn’t agree, then you simply part ways, so it should be straightforward—but in reality, it’s not always that easy, is it? (laughs)
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I also feel that this is nothing more than a one-sided attempt to haggle. I don’t like that kind of underhanded behavior, so I’d point out that the allowance was short, even if it meant ending the relationship.
If you want to continue the relationship despite receiving a lower allowance, though, I think it would be better to say nothing.
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I’m in Seattle.
I also see that as lowering the allowance without your agreement.
If you’re okay with that amount, continue; if not, I’d turn him down if he offers the same terms next time.
Personally, I’d end things rather than accept a lower allowance.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
That’s unfortunate. Don’t let it get you down.
What would you do if you said, “The allowance was 10,000 yen short,” and she replied, “No, I gave you the usual amount”? It would just turn into a pointless argument, or possibly an all-out fight. I’m not sure whether it was a mistake or intentional, but I don’t think you should point it out. If you’re already thinking of ending things, then I suppose it’s okay to mention it.
Personally, I’d give her the same allowance as last time when we meet again. To put it bluntly, it’s a “discount.”
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