When a papa is close to my age or I start to like him for who he is, I sometimes feel bad about accepting an allowance. I find myself thinking, “He worked hard to earn this money, and I’m just receiving it easily after spending a few hours with him...”
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Maybe I’m not cut out for this.
I don’t feel that way with people who aren’t my type or whom I don’t really feel anything for—though I know that may sound rude.
Should I avoid getting emotionally involved in the first place?
I’m in my 60s and feeling lost.
Cherish those feelings…
I’ve been involved with a woman like that before, so I won’t tell you to accept it or turn it down.
But any man who takes advantage of those feelings is no good.
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
Thank you for your question.
I think it’s best to value those feelings and make good use of the money you receive. If you use it wisely, the other person will probably be happy too.
They’d likely be disappointed if the money were simply wasted, so be mindful of that and make sure to use it carefully.
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This is Kobayashi from the Tokyo branch.
You sound like a very considerate woman. Why not try sharing those feelings with him?
That said, I think it’s best to accept whatever allowance he’s offering—you’ll probably be better off in the long run.
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I’m in Seattle.
Men who can barely afford the allowance shouldn’t be doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) in the first place.
Since this isn’t a relationship with marriage in mind, the money also compensates you for the inconvenience—so go ahead and accept it.
Try to save at least ¥1.4 million.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
One of Mac’s memorable sayings is, “An allowance is a condom for the heart.”
Giving an allowance is important for maintaining a transactional relationship. Please understand that, if you want to continue a transactional relationship with a man you like, you need to accept the allowance.
Since we’re all human, I think feelings naturally get involved. To keep those feelings from overflowing, I believe it’s important both to give and to accept an allowance.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
The allowance you receive reflects your current value at the dating club. Since it’s a value recognized by the men, there’s no need to feel hesitant about accepting it.
I think you should simply continue seeing him sincerely, as you are. As Mac said, you can use it however you like.
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