The woman I’ve been seeing for about two months (B type) seems to be in pain during intimacy. Even when I use lotion, I can’t help feeling guilty. But she gets upset if I stop halfway. Is it okay to continue seeing her? She says it’s the same with other people, but I feel like I’m doing something terrible, and I lose my erection partway through. How should I handle this? I’m very attracted to her, so please don’t suggest things like finding someone else to see. Thank you.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. Hmm, I guess all you can do is hope they get used to it. I can’t think of any other solution. In situations like that, I think you have no choice but to use an adult solution. Perhaps it would be best to reflect your feelings of apology in the allowance.

Maezawa from the President’s Office here—I’ll answer as well. Thank you for your question. “I’d prefer answers from anyone except ○○.” I’ve seen this kind of wording a few times before. You don’t want to hear opinions telling you to make offers to other people, and your question is whether you should continue the relationship. Would it be acceptable to answer: “Don’t make offers to anyone else, and don’t continue the relationship”? If you feel like you’re doing something terrible, you should stop immediately. Please don’t do anything terrible.

I’m a male member who goes by Paper Airplane. Even with couples or married partners, relationships last because of deep emotional compatibility. Physical compatibility rarely changes at its core, no matter how many decades pass, so it may be best to give up on expecting better chemistry or easier arousal. Just as men are pleased when a woman becomes aroused quickly and climaxes soon, women feel happy and reassured when a man gets ready quickly and climaxes soon. Putting your own satisfaction aside, I think it’s also important to make sure you climax quickly. If she finds it painful, oral sex is perfectly fine. In the past, there was a club woman with whom I had poor physical compatibility. No matter how many times we tried, her arousal didn’t really improve, and since we got along well emotionally, I wasn’t sure what to do. Then one day, we went to a swingers’ club, and she became more aroused than ever before, even before I started touching her. After that, both her arousal and ability to climax changed dramatically. Since the woman you’re seeing is a Type B, you like her appearance, and you’re otherwise very satisfied, perhaps you should keep the entire intimate experience—including foreplay—as short as possible. Rather than having foreplay, try spending a relaxed amount of time holding each other and being affectionate, or giving her a long massage—anything that won’t make her associate the experience with pain.