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Nov 16, 2020 02:08
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Meg
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🏅 修行の身
光と影
Age: 50s
👩 Female
Former Universe member
I’m Meg, a female member.
Please gather your courage and ask him.
Recently, my papa told me that my sex drive was too strong for him to handle—haha.
That conversation actually led him to buy me a toy.
I use it to keep myself satisfied when we can’t meet.
He apparently wants me to report back after I use it.
(I was a little put off by that…)
But it makes him happy, so…
I always give him a proper report in the end.
Other
I’m Tetsu, a male member.
I’ve never had anyone be put off by using toys, so I can’t say for sure, but I think it probably comes down to when you bring up the subject.
From what I’ve heard, more than half of the women have some experience with toys, regardless of whether they liked them or not. I think it’s best to ask, “Have you ever used toys before?” and then judge from her reaction whether she’d be comfortable using them. Rather than suddenly using one, I usually ease into it by saying something like, “Shall we try one next time?” I also prioritize the woman’s wishes so she won’t feel uncomfortable.
As Maezawa-san also mentioned, toys should always be brand-new.
🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
This is exactly the question I wanted to ask myself right now, lol. I’m grateful to the person who asked it. I’m also too nervous to bring it up—I’m just like the questioner. Let’s both do our best!(^^)
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
Thank you for your question.
I’m not sure it’s appropriate to bring up that kind of topic while eating or out in public, but if you’re alone together in a room, I don’t think it would be shocking enough to put them off.
That said, you should also consider how the other person feels. I think it’s best to ask whether they’re okay with it first, and then bring it up.
However, please bring a new one every time. That’s the basic rule.
P.S. There may be exceptions for people who are more experienced, but imagine a woman brought a toy intended for use on a man, and it wasn’t new. Wouldn’t you wonder, “Who was this used on before?” Even if you personally wouldn’t think that way, some people might, so it’s safest to use a new one.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
When the topic of using toys comes up, it’s usually in the context of masturbation or sex with other men. When I ask how she masturbates, I can often find out about her favorite toys or what she uses as material. And when I ask about memorable things she’s done with other men, toys sometimes come up in the conversation.
As Paper Airplane said, women are generally willing to be open-minded if it helps keep the relationship going. So unless it involves something painful, dirty, extremely exhausting, or otherwise crosses a personal taboo, I think most women will go along with it.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
I want the woman to feel more satisfied as well, so I think I’m very cooperative and open-minded about it.
If she also wants to continue seeing you, I think her response will be surprisingly smooth.
Also, since you said:
> I feel like it would be over if she got turned off, so I haven’t been able to take the plunge.
it seems her satisfaction level probably isn’t quite high enough at the moment. So there’s a good chance she’ll see what you need as something worth cooperating with.
That said, unlike with a romantic partner or spouse, a club allows you to keep looking until you find someone with exceptionally good chemistry. So it might not be a bad idea to look for someone who can get you sufficiently excited even without toys.