I live in Sapporo.

I’m a male member, Fullerene! > I’ve always been frustrated about having to live quietly as a mistress so my wife and workplace wouldn’t find out. I can relate to that. But— > I work in a field affected by the coronavirus, so my income will decrease and I’ll have no choice but to rely on my papa. I can’t agree with that way of thinking. If it were me, I’d end the relationship. First, you need to make an effort to help yourself. If I could see that attitude, I’d be willing to support her wholeheartedly.

I’m Flagmaker, a column writer. In Sapporo, some adult entertainment establishments have customers stand in front of a camera beforehand to check whether they know any of the girls working there, right? Sapporo is a relatively small world where there’s a high risk of being recognized, so I imagine that’s why phrases like “living quietly” come up. In the Kanto area, there are more people and more places to go, so you don’t have to keep such a low profile. Hmm… If it were me, I wouldn’t start by asking for a realistic amount or anything like that. Instead, I’d make an absolutely outrageous request—something so huge it would make them laugh. Like, “I want a building! Buy me a building!” After getting them to say, “No way, that’s impossible! (lol),” I’d follow up with, “Then would you be able to help with, say, ¥○○,000 for living expenses? (crying)” That kind of thing. Once you’ve made them laugh and got them talking, it’s easier to get a yes. What kind of advice even is this? (lol)

I’m Rin, a female member. I’m shocked! Who does he think he is? Don’t complain until you can stand on your own two feet. You’re in no position to say that while you’re still living as a parasite.

Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here as well. Thank you for your question. > I can’t help wondering what being a mistress is actually supposed to mean. I think many men don’t see it as a job. Rather, they want to help the person they’re seeing, or give her an allowance as a token of appreciation for being with them. Generally, we call something done repeatedly an “occupation,” so it isn’t entirely unreasonable to think of it that way just because you receive an allowance every time. Even so, I’d like you to understand that there’s often something more than just a job involved—and many men are looking for something beyond that. Of course, if the person you’re seeing really treats it purely as work—someone who simply takes the money and leaves, or someone you barely exchange words with and only meet for intimacy—then I can understand why you’d see it that way. But in reality, I don’t think that’s usually the case. If so, then expecting him to transfer your allowance or send you presents would be asking too much. If you’re meeting less often because you’re being cautious at level 3 and your finances are becoming strained, I think it’s fine to casually mention it from time to time. If he truly cares about you, he may offer a solution himself. However, if your attitude becomes “I want the money without meeting,” then even if that’s the result of everything you’ve put up with until now, he’ll probably feel disappointed.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. COVID-19 has been on the rise again lately, and I have a feeling this winter may bring another peak. I’m a regional member myself, but recently it also seems as though infections are spreading from the Tokyo area to other regions. Up until now, I’ve continued my usual monthly arrangement while staying cautious about COVID, but as you said, I may need to reconsider maintaining the relationship. If the woman’s income is decreasing, that probably means the papa’s income is decreasing too—so what should we do about the allowance...? I’m a bit of a worrier, so I even find myself wondering things like, “What happens to the arrangement fee if she tells me she’s quitting being a mistress?” I’ve also thought about quitting papa-katsu, but I believe I renewed my membership recently, so I probably won’t（笑）

I’m Kazu, a male member. Am I right in understanding that you’re in a pay-per-meeting arrangement as a mistress, so you’re struggling because your income has decreased as your meetings have become less frequent? If the agreement was pay-per-meeting, then isn’t it only natural that you don’t receive an allowance when you don’t meet? If you still needed financial help when you couldn’t meet, I think the mistake was failing to build a relationship with your papa where he would give you some kind of allowance even during those times. I can’t look after every stray cat in the neighborhood, but most papas would probably at least put out some food if their beloved house cat were crying from hunger.