My girlfriend was secretly involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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I’m not a member, but I have a question.
The other day, I secretly looked through my girlfriend’s phone and saw LINE messages from this club, as well as conversations with several men. Judging from the content, I realized she was doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
Because I truly loved her, I honestly felt deeply betrayed and disgusted. Of course, we’ve already broken up, but what goes through the minds of people who participate in club activities while they have a boyfriend?
When I talked with her for the last time, I asked why she had started doing this. But all she did was cry and apologize. She told me that the person she least wanted to find out had discovered something she had intended to take to her grave, and that I shouldn’t ask her anything else. I’m still left not knowing what she was thinking.
Even now, I find myself wondering how someone who had seemed like such a good person could do this.
I’m Rin, a female member.
You should never look through someone’s phone without permission.
I’m sure you’d be furious if someone did the same thing to you.
I think the best thing is not to betray the person who matters most to you. But if you still end up having something to hide, you should make every effort to ensure that it never gets found out or comes to light—no matter what. Because that person is the most important to you, and you don’t want to lose them.
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I’m Meg, a female member.
You’ve seen something you weren’t supposed to see. Even though I told you never to open it…
Now that you’ve seen me, I must fly away.
It reminds me of *The Grateful Crane*.
How sad…
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
Come on, let that one go.
I think it’s okay to forgive someone for their first mistake, right? If they repeat it a second time, then you can decide what to do.
Forgiving them could make their trust in you skyrocket. Can’t you see it as an opportunity instead?
Update:
You don’t hear much about men checking women’s phones, but I always thought women checking men’s phones was practically a 100% certainty. I thought that was normal. Are all the women around me just messed up?
If you’re suspicious, you’d normally check, right? Or am I wrong? lol
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
In a nutshell, I think it’s because they feel “unfulfilled.”
While that often seems to be financial, as everyone else has said, I think there are various other reasons as well.
I don’t know what triggers someone to get involved, but in any case, there are always consequences.
This time, it was a woman breaking up with her boyfriend, but something entirely opposite could happen a few years from now.
All sorts of things happen in life, don’t they…
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here, and I’ll answer as well.
Thank you for your question.
I think you’ll understand someday, when you’re financially comfortable enough to register with Universe.
Best of luck.
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I’m Kazu, a male club member.
I think women who participate in club activities despite having a boyfriend are looking for something they can’t get from him.
It might be an allowance, a more expensive date, sex or excitement, or perhaps the generosity they can’t expect from someone their own age.
I probably wouldn’t have been able to accept it in my twenties either, but it doesn’t bother me now.
Whether someone is your spouse or not, they’re still a separate person. Since she isn’t even married to you, she’s even more so. Once you understand that your spouse or girlfriend is a different person with her own individuality—not an extension of you—and learn to respect her as such, you’ll become more mature.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
I’m seeing several women who have boyfriends. They all say they signed up because they’re dissatisfied with their sex lives, though of course the allowance is also part of the appeal.
I believe what they’re saying is true, but I sometimes wonder if what they really want is simply someone to listen to them. They constantly talk about their dissatisfaction with their boyfriends. Even after all that, though, they never actually break up with them. It’s strange. Still, listening to them, I get the sense that their boyfriends do value them.
Most of the stories I hear about people looking through someone else’s phone are negative. Why do people go out of their way to look for their own unhappiness?
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Seattle.
A woman is beautiful when she has a little mystery about her. Money is the second most important thing after health.
It’s your fault for snooping through my phone without permission. I think what happened to you was payback for that.
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