The man I was recently set up with was unbelievably full of himself.
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He said, “You don’t dislike going on dates with me, do you? If you do, I guess it can’t be helped, but if we’re both having fun, would an allowance of ○○ (less than the amount I requested) be okay? (^○^)”
How can someone be so full of himself?
What would you say in response?
I’d really appreciate any advice you can give me.
Thank you.
Mamiy from Universe Tokyo here.
I wouldn’t say he’s overconfident—if anything, he’s overly self-conscious and probably lacks confidence. From my experience, he says that because he dislikes relationships ending for no particular reason, so deep down, he’s actually quite lonely.
Perhaps he sees the allowance as compensation for putting up with him. That kind of thinking is rather distasteful, so even if you receive the allowance you’re hoping for, I don’t think continuing to see him would be good for your mental well-being. He’ll probably say something strange again.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
Thank you for your question.
Could this be the same man who, after dinner, entered into an adult relationship (intimate) with you but only gave you transportation money?
The club must have warned him and told him to be more careful going forward, so if he really is being more careful, that’s a good thing.
However, he’s going about it the wrong way.
> What would you all say in response?
I think you can just be direct:
“Sorry, but I’m looking for an allowance of ¥〇, so that amount wouldn’t work for me.”
Something like that should be fine.
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I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
If you want to keep it polite and inoffensive, something like this might work:
“I do think you’re a good person, but I’m sorry—I don’t accept anything below 〇〇 (your desired amount). Would 〇〇 be difficult for you?”
Then just stay silent with a troubled look until they say something.
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