I always enjoy reading your posts. Someone mentioned tying a person’s wrists with a bathrobe. Have you all already learned how to do that? Where did you learn? It wouldn’t look very smooth if you couldn’t tie them properly… Thank you in advance.

I’m Kazu, a male member. As Riichi-san explained, tying someone with a bathrobe belt means tying it loosely enough that the woman can remove it whenever she wants. I suggested a bathrobe belt because I figured it wouldn’t cut off the circulation in her wrists. If you actually try it, please be careful not to restrict her blood flow, and make sure she feels able to speak up if she truly doesn’t like it. Tying her wrists with a bathrobe belt is, I think, non-SM enough to fit the request for “something other than SM.” When I was younger, I was really into SM and learned from an experienced dominant man, so I knew how to tie someone up. But I’ve been out of practice for a long time, so I probably couldn’t do it anymore. I’ve even thought about finding a submissive female partner and relearning through a rope-bondage workshop. It would look cool if you could tie someone smoothly, but I think the best partner is a woman who can enjoy figuring it out together, even if things don’t go smoothly. These days, you can buy beginner’s kits for Japanese diamond bondage on Amazon, so why not buy one and ask her if she’d let you practice tying her? Of course, learning at a rope-bondage workshop is another option. You don’t have to insist on diamond bondage, either. Amazon carries various items that make restraint easy, including bondage tape. Why not start by enjoying something that doesn’t require any special technique? Here too, please be careful not to cut off her circulation and make sure she feels able to speak up if she genuinely dislikes it. I believe true SM play is about doing what the woman wants you to do.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. I don’t know anything about advanced bondage techniques. If you suddenly tied her up tightly, she might be completely put off, so I think it’s best to start casually. In fact, it may be more reassuring if she can untie herself. Since this wasn’t a request from the woman, let’s keep it within the bounds of play and enjoy it.

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here—I’ll answer as well. Thank you for your question. It reminds me of the saying, “You can’t see the forest for the trees.”