I have a question about a woman with Dating Type C.

I’m in Seattle. I think it was Neporin Naporin, maybe? I watched “Rental Girlfriend” on TV too. Having used Universe’s A-type service, I thought it was pretty similar to a rental girlfriend arrangement. The price is also about the same—6,000 yen an hour. Women probably have half taken by the agency, so they’d make more through Universe, lol.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. Wait… What?! Does Type C mean an adult relationship (intimate)? Huh? Is that so?? Maybe I didn’t really understand the different types… Maybe—just maybe—on very rare occasions, that can happen… If that’s the case, she might be back to Type B or changed to Type A by the day after tomorrow… That might make things clear. Girls who aren’t used to the club—or don’t know much about it—can be appealing too…

I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer as well. Thank you for your question. “I’d like to go out for a meal” is probably just a polite way of saying that she’d be okay with seeing you—as long as it’s only for dinner. So even if you do have a meal together, I don’t think it necessarily means there will be anything beyond that. I’m not sure what went wrong, but as a kind of post-date review, you could invite her to dinner again and ask her for more details. The other day, I saw a TV program about rental girlfriends. Apparently, sexual activity is strictly prohibited, and you’re basically not allowed to touch the other person at all. The only permitted contact is holding hands—and even then, the romantic interlocking-fingers style is prohibited. It costs 6,000 yen per hour, so if dinner takes two hours, that’s 12,000 yen—more than you’d get from Universe. (笑) According to the program, some men apparently ask the woman how they should go about dating. In some cases, they spend the first two hours of a three-hour session on the date, and the final hour is for the woman to explain what the man did wrong during the date. And apparently, they start with “Nice to meet you” every single time... I thought, “So that’s another way people use the service.” Since you have the opportunity, you might want to invite this woman to dinner again and try saying something like: “I’d like you to tell me what I did wrong on our date.” On the same program, one man initially referred to women as “onna,” which is obviously an unacceptable way to put it. But he apparently hadn’t realized it was inappropriate, saying things like, “Is it wrong to say that? I didn’t know.” Even if something seems perfectly normal to you, there may be words or actions that women find unacceptable. And I think the best thing is simply to ask women directly. No matter how old we get, there are still plenty of things to learn in life.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. If we take the question at face value, I think you’re right. It sounds like she’s saying an adult relationship (intimate) is out of the question, but dinner only (no intimacy) might be okay. Have you considered the possibility that her change in dating type from B to C was just a façade? If so, you should let go of that wishful thinking. I don’t think you’ll be able to have that kind of relationship with the woman mentioned in your question.

I’m Kazu, a male member. She may have said, “I’d like to go out for a meal,” as a polite way of declining because she felt uncomfortable saying, “I don’t want to see you anymore.” Even if you figure out why she’s willing to have dinner with you, it probably won’t help much going forward. I think it would be more useful to consider why she turned down an arrangement in a private room.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. I may be unusual in thinking that figuring out those kinds of mysteries is part of the fun, but why not take things slowly and move the relationship forward at their pace—including the mystery-solving aspect?