I’m a female member, and I have a question about how long dates with male members usually last.

Akai from the Universe Club Tokyo branch here—I’ll answer as well. Thank you for your question. We generally ask that first dates be planned for around four hours, but not every date will necessarily last exactly four hours. Some may end after about two hours, while others may go beyond four hours because you’re having such a good time. However, the length of the date doesn’t necessarily reflect the level of interest. Some men may keep the first date to a dinner-only first meeting, and dates after the second may depend on the plan. So I don’t think every man decides how long to spend based solely on the person he’s with.

I’m Meg, one of the female members. Three or four hours fly by, don’t they? It’s nowhere near enough. I’m sorry I can only make a little time. I just wish we could see each other a bit more often.

Maezawa from the President’s Office here. Thank you for your question. Apparently, some men spend as long as six hours even on the first date arranged through the club. How do we know? Because the women file complaints. And since these men have long dates every time, we receive similar complaints from the women again and again. Thinking about it that way, it seems that the length of the date is determined less by the woman they’re meeting and more by the man’s own mindset, regardless of who she is. That said, they may adjust the length depending on the woman once it’s the second date or later.

This is Kobayashi from the Tokyo branch. To put it simply, I don’t think the length of a date is changed based on the person. Is this your first date, or a second date or later? For a first date, as explained during the interview and when making the offer, the club asks both men and women to set aside four hours. Some men let us know when making the offer, “I’m expecting the date to end after around two hours.” Likewise, women sometimes reply to an offer by saying, “I’m sorry, but it would be difficult for me to spend four hours that day. I can make time for two hours, though.” (It’s not okay to skip this kind of communication and then say on the day of the date, “Actually, I have plans today, so I can’t stay for four hours.”) For second dates and beyond, if the length of the date were really being decided based on the person, then personally, I don’t think they would make plans to meet at all if they weren’t a good match. I don’t think anyone would spend their valuable time on someone they don’t click with. Whether the date is short or long, I think the most important thing is to enjoy that time wholeheartedly. I hope you build a wonderful relationship!

I’m Kazu, a male member. I’ll answer the question about dates after the second one. I have one person I spend six to eight hours with, another I spend about two hours with, and another I spend around four hours with. I’m not sure if you could call it the strength of my feelings, but if I had to choose just one partner, I wouldn’t hesitate to choose the person I spend six to eight hours with. We can talk for that long without getting bored, and sometimes I’m so absorbed that I suddenly realize it’s nearly time for the last train and have to rush to get ready to leave. I’m certainly never bored with her. I tried organizing the relationship I have with each woman and the amount of time we spend on dates: - If we’re not very familiar with each other yet: two hours for dinner and two hours at her place, for a total of four hours - If we usually only message each other on LINE to arrange our next meeting: we meet up just for sex, for about two hours - If we talk and spend time doing things together in addition to sex: six to eight hours It’s not that I change the amount of time depending on the woman—the length varies depending on what we do during the date. If she’s only someone I see for sex, it’s relatively easy to find a replacement, so my feelings are weaker. On the other hand, it’s difficult to find someone I can enjoy talking and spending time with as well as having sex with, so I might say my feelings are stronger because I want to treat her better. That said, even if sex is the only thing we do when we meet, I still want to value someone if we have exceptionally satisfying sex. In that case, you could say my feelings are strong even if we only meet for two hours of sex. When I think about it that way, perhaps the amount of time and the strength of my feelings aren’t related.