When I’m doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I often get told that he has no trouble with women.
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It’s like he’s bragging, “Women come to me without me doing anything, so I’m not exactly short of options.”
What’s the point of this kind of bragging?
Does he want me to look at him with sparkling eyes and say, “Wow, you’re amazing!”? Or is he shrinking back modestly, waiting for me to suggest a ridiculously low allowance…?
Honestly, I also have the opposite sex coming to me without me doing anything. But those kinds of people tend to cause trouble, which is why I assumed he had signed up here looking for a more transactional, convenient relationship.
So we’re not even playing on the same field as the people who approach him in the first place. I’m left thinking, “So what if you’re bragging about that?” I feel like telling him, “It’s the same for me.”
Hmm? Writing this out made me realize something. Was he trying to say that money is only needed to draw a line, so a small amount should be enough?
I feel like I’ve almost reached my own conclusion, but does this mean he isn’t willing to spend much on an allowance and is looking for someone who’s okay with that?
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here as well.
Thanks for your question.
> What is he trying to brag about, exactly?
Basically, he’s bragging that he doesn’t have any trouble attracting women.
My guess is that he has this strange assumption that anyone registered with a dating club must be desperate for women. So unless he starts by bragging that he’s not like that, he probably can’t maintain his own self-esteem.
He also may not realize at all that his bragging makes the other person uncomfortable, and may genuinely think it’s just normal conversation.
On top of that, it could be a way of laying the groundwork to negotiate a lower allowance—or a defensive move in case the woman turns him down.
There are all kinds of people out there, so if you feel he isn’t a good match, you can simply end things after dinner only (no intimacy).
I hope you can look at the fact that dating clubs let you meet someone over a meal first as one of their advantages.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
If women come flocking to him without him doing anything, then he wouldn’t need to make offers—or even sign up with a dating club in the first place, right? LOL
He probably wasn’t thinking that deeply; he just wanted to say, “I’m a little popular with the ladies too, you know.” It may be lame, but please cut an old guy’s empty boasting some slack.
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I’m Fulleren, a male member!
Since it only says that she’s doing papa-katsu, I wonder whether that includes men she meets through apps and similar platforms.
Between women who meet men through Universe and those who meet them through apps, which group is more likely to run into that kind of man?
I get the impression that men like that first try to assert their dominance and take control of the negotiations. Men tend to want to establish who’s superior anyway, so perhaps they simply don’t want to be looked down on.
Universe is a little more of a barrier for men to enter than apps, so I feel they’re less likely to think they need to start off by trying to assert dominance like that.
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