The club contacted me and said,
“You’re planning to have a meal together, so please come hungry,”
and, “Please come dressed somewhat formally.”
So I prepared accordingly and went to meet him, but the male member showed up wearing something like work clothes (?), hardly what I’d call formal attire, which really surprised me.
And that wasn’t all. He said, “Did you already eat? We haven’t decided where to go yet, so why don’t we walk around for a bit?” So we started by looking for somewhere to eat.
Even during the meal, his table manners were terrible.
He made a clicking sound with his tongue whenever he spoke.
And all he talked about was complaining.
I’d never met anyone like him before, and honestly, I thought I never wanted to see him again.
Since I’m registered as dating type C, he invited me to a hotel after dinner, but it was the first time I turned someone down.
He then said, “In that case, let’s just call it a day.” When I asked about the transportation allowance because it didn’t look like I was going to receive any, he said, “Why should I pay you when we didn’t go to a hotel?” In the end, he told me, “Fine, I’ll give you ¥2,000 on the condition that you agree to meet me again,” and gave me ¥2,000.
I realize that, despite being registered as dating type C, I may also be at fault for not going to the hotel. But aren’t transportation expenses supposed to be set at ¥5,000 to ¥10,000?
I’m using the club because I’m struggling with living expenses, despite taking the risk of running into someone I know.
Honestly, I never want to see someone like this again. But since I received ¥2,000 on the condition that I meet him again, am I obligated to see him next time?
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The club will confirm the situation with the man.
> To be honest, I never want to see someone like this again. Since I received ¥2,000 on the condition that we meet again, am I obligated to see him again?
The rules specify an allowance of ¥5,000–¥10,000, so since the amount didn’t reach that minimum, the condition requiring another meeting does not apply. You do not need to meet him again.
Since you clearly told him about the transportation fee this time but didn’t receive it, it seems the club will charge the man and transfer the money to you. Normally, we would tell you to collect it when you meet him a second time, but since you don’t want to see him again, the club will probably transfer the ¥3,000 difference to you.
(Please discuss the actual arrangements with the branch staff.)
> I know it’s also my fault for not going to a hotel even though my dating type was C.
It’s not your fault at all.
You had a clear reason for turning him down, and almost everyone who hears the details would agree that refusing was the obvious choice. It’s rare for a man’s behavior to make the reason so clear.
In the first place, dating type C means being open to an adult relationship (intimate) on the day of the meeting about 50% of the time. Even if you turn it down once out of two meetings, you’re still right in the middle of type C.
I imagine women with type D may feel bad about turning someone down, but even with type D, this was clearly someone you had every right to refuse.
(Even type D women have the right to say no.)
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Universe Club Tokyo
Assistant Chief Aizawa here.
First of all, I sincerely apologize that you had to go through a date like that.
I’m truly sorry.
Please report this to your assigned branch as soon as possible.
The club will contact the gentleman to confirm the situation, and since transportation expenses are part of the rules, we will charge him once everything has been verified.
The club will then transfer the money to you.
Thank you for your cooperation.
The options saying:
“I’d like you to come hungry since we’re planning to eat together,” and
“Please come dressed somewhat formally,”
were selected by the gentleman when he made the offer.
He may have originally planned to take you somewhere nice to eat, but perhaps he got busy with work and forgot...
With Type C, there is a possibility that the relationship may progress from the first day, but it depends on how you feel about each other, so there is nothing wrong with turning someone down.
Especially when the other person behaved like this, I think that’s completely understandable.
¥2,000 for promising to meet again... That’s practically a fake deposit...
The gentleman has also violated the club’s rules, so you do not need to meet him again.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
You had an awful experience...
First of all, transportation expenses are set at ¥5,000 or more, so that man violated the rules. Why not send this exact question in the post-date survey?
There’s absolutely no need to see him again.
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