I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
That’s a very good question. It’s a perfectly valid concern, and I’m sure many people reading this anonymous Q&A are thinking, “Exactly.”
When it comes to relationships through a dating club, preventing sexually transmitted infections is important. If you catch chlamydia or gonorrhea, you can go to the doctor, say, “I’m sorry—I’m just a lecherous old man,” scratch your head, and get treated. But even after syphilis is no longer transmissible, it can still show up on tests. And while treatments for HIV have improved, it seems you still have to keep taking medication, and it may place restrictions on your everyday life.
I’m already past 60, so even if I were infected, my remaining healthy years probably wouldn’t be that long. I suppose I’d resign myself to thinking, “Well, it’s over,” a little sooner than people my age. But young women have their whole lives ahead of them, so we need to make sure they don’t get infected—and that we don’t infect anyone else.
We already know how to prevent infection. All that’s left is to put it into practice.
First, create an environment where you neither catch nor spread infections, and follow through.
Let’s do our best!!
This is Nagato from the Tokyo staff.
I think the answer depends on whether you’re looking for a long-term relationship or a transactional relationship.
That said, considering that someone in a long-term relationship may not be seeing only you, I’ve recently started to think that it’s better to take precautions even in a long-term arrangement.
Women can be scary.
I’m Kazu, a male member.
What exactly are you struggling against?
People have different views on whether to accept the risks, so I don’t think asking here will give you a definitive answer.
I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
Don’t men find women scary?
I always think that when I see questions like this.
I’m way too scared to ask something like that myself.
Scary, scary…
Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
Thank you for your question.
It seems you may be misunderstanding something, but there are all kinds of people in the world.
If someone feels afraid, it’s only natural for them to protect themselves. Other people have no business criticizing them for that. Rather, I’d like people to be considerate enough to respect those feelings.
Also, if you’re saying there’s no need to be that afraid, then you should be prepared to take responsibility for the other person’s life if something were to happen. That said, I don’t think many people are actually capable of taking on that level of responsibility in the first place.
At the same time, people should also be allowed to respect their own preferences regarding the kind of woman they want to meet.
It’s only natural to look for someone who fits what you’re looking for. I hope you can respect other people’s opinions while searching for the kind of woman you personally feel is right for you.
> I wonder how women like that would feel if a man told them, “Unprotected cunnilingus is a no-go, but cunnilingus with nylon (?), sure.”
If they’re worried about infections, I imagine most of them would actually welcome that. In the first place, they probably don’t want it done at all.
