I’m a female member.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. > Even though I want to forget him quickly, I keep remembering his voice and things we talked about back then. I think everyone has memories like that. Some people seem forgotten most of the time, then suddenly come to mind in an unexpected moment. It’s a little different from having liked someone, but even though I’ve only met three people through a dating club, two of them remain unforgettable memories. You can think, “I wish I’d done things differently back then,” and take those regrets as part of what brought you to where you are now. If you can apply what you learned going forward, those experiences will become an asset in their own way. I think it’s fair to say you’ve come a little closer to becoming a mature, alluring woman.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. I get it. I really do. There are four people like that for me. Right afterward, it hurts whenever they come to mind. As time passes, the pain fades, but it never completely disappears. That’s how it feels. That said, I don’t compare them or rank one above another. Either I fall for someone or I don’t. That’s all there is to it. Lately, I’ve been wondering whether there’s any real benefit to having more experiences like this. It feels like there isn’t any at all. I’m married in the first place, after all. Maybe it’s about time I went back home. > Mac I’ll stop you from going back home, lol.

I’m Meg, a female member. That sounds really painful. You don’t always realize how much it hurts until later. I understand… Even though I was married and already over 40, there was a time when I was in love with someone 18 years younger than me for three years. “Falling in love even though breakups are inevitable—how foolish…” That was me, haha. But I don’t regret it. Having him in my life gave me the strength to keep going, and he made me want to become prettier. I cried so much when we broke up, but it’s been a year now, and time really is helping me heal. It was his birthday the other day, so I found myself thinking of him again and shedding a few tears. Heh. The person I am today is thanks to him. We can’t walk through life together, but I want to live positively while wishing him happiness. The fact that you met someone you could love that deeply is already something wonderful. It may come with pain too, but I’m cheering you on. The song Papuwa-san recommended has such beautiful lyrics♪

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here with an answer as well. Thanks for your question. If you were the one who brought up the breakup, I feel like it would be okay to reach out now. But if the breakup was their idea, then please keep it as a memory. That said, unlike men, I feel like women don’t tend to hold on to memories in quite the same way… If you still like him, maybe it stays with you because it’s still ongoing?