New girls are always joining, and I’m sure the club is full of cuter and prettier women than me, but I want my favorite male member to keep loving me for a long time. I never say things like “I love you,” and I have no intention of being difficult or demanding, but what do you think I can do to stay together for as long as possible?

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. > New girls are constantly joining, and surely the club is full of girls who are cuter or more beautiful than you… I don’t think you need to worry too much about that. What matters most is understanding what kind of relationship that particular man is looking for and meeting those expectations. Men at dating clubs participate for all sorts of reasons. As long as the relationship can continue safely and reliably, I believe it will last. In my case, the things I value most are: 1. Whether she can be trusted to keep the relationship private and regarding sexually transmitted infections 2. Whether she tries to engage with me through her eye contact and attitude 3. Whether she is honest and humble If those three points are in place, her looks being merely average, being not very good at intimacy, or even double-dipping on transportation expenses every time don’t really matter to me. In my case, I’m one of the less affluent men at the dating club—or perhaps “a man who’s been through a lot” would be more accurate. I’ve been seeing one woman for over a year and a half, and I haven’t made an offer to anyone new. I don’t know what kind of person that man is, but if he’s someone who’s been through a lot at dating clubs and you properly meet the things he values, there’s a good chance the relationship will last a long time（笑）

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well. Thank you for your question. > You don’t say things like “I like you.” It may depend on the person, but I think it’s better to say that you like him. When you keep telling him you like him, it seems to make him like you even more. If you can be specific about what you like about him, and get it right, he’ll think, “So that’s what she likes about me.” It also makes it feel more genuine. Also, when you want to see him, instead of saying you want to meet because you like him, I think it may be better to say: “Could you see me? I’m in a bit of a tough spot.” He might think, “But we just met recently—why is she already in trouble?” Still, he may feel like he has to help you. Then, when you meet and you tell him how much you like him, he might feel kind of happy. That way, the balance seems to work well: he knows you want to see him because you’re in a difficult situation, so it’s about the money—but you still like him, too. (If it’s only about liking each other, it can start to feel scary, while if it’s only about money, things can start to feel cold.)

I’m Kazu, a male member. I believe that for a relationship to continue, you need to keep providing what the man is looking for. That varies from man to man, but in most cases, it’s probably a relaxing time, something that stirs romantic feelings, enjoyable conversation, or satisfying sex. In my case, I’m looking for a combination of fun conversation and satisfying sex. I’m not really sure what a relaxing time or romantic excitement means to me. Why not start by figuring out what this particular man is looking for from you?

I’m Tetsu, a male member. When deciding whether to continue seeing someone long-term, I feel that looks—whether she’s beautiful or cute—are actually a low priority. When meeting someone for the first time, of course we start with her appearance because we’ve seen her photos. But no matter how much I like her looks, it won’t last if I don’t feel comfortable being together. Don’t worry about other women. First and foremost, cherish the time you spend with the man who adores you.