I mainly make offers to B-type women who are 18–22-year-old college students, or young women with regular jobs but low incomes who seem inexperienced.
I've had very aggressive approaches from all the C-types and experienced women in the past, so I feel a bit hesitant about them. Also, I find women who are doing this only casually as a side gig and don't have much experience more exciting because everything is new to them.
Thankfully, I end up going to a hotel with most of them, but with that type of woman, contact often gradually fades out and naturally ends after a few months. I sometimes think they could at least keep me on LINE, since they could always reach out if they ever needed money. Once we stop going on dates regularly, though, it often ends with my messages being left unread.
Is it simply that people around that age go through so many changes in their private lives—university, work, relationships, and so on—that these arrangements don't last? From the club's perspective, is it also rare for women that age to remain registered for several years?
There is, however, one woman who still contacts me even after ending her papa-katsu relationship with both the club and me, and she actively comes out for dinner when I invite her. She even says she doesn't need any money, despite living far away. Well, since I can't give her money, I can't really invite her to a hotel either. Are women like this unusual?
If things continue this way, I don't know how I'm supposed to relate to her. I don't really see her as a friend because of the age difference, and I still find myself wanting to go to a hotel with her.
I'm struggling with the relationships I form through papa-katsu, so I'd appreciate any advice about navigating this world. I wish I could just think, “I'm overthinking it—just enjoy each moment and move on from one person to the next.”
I’m Papercraft, a male club member who dislikes constantly switching partners and is starting to wonder whether it’s time to retire from both the club and papa-katsu.
The Type B women you’re offering may, if things continue—especially given their age—have a good chance of receiving extraordinarily high allowances, so I think it’s only natural that some relationships eventually fade out.
At the same time, there are people of both genders who don’t place that much importance on money and would rather build a long-term relationship with one person than constantly switch partners or see a large number of people.
I think it’s also important to recognize those kinds of connections when they come along and not let them slip away.
In your case, I think things could change significantly if you focused on women around 23 to 26 years old. It doesn’t seem necessary to deliberately enter such a risky world, where the competition—and allowances—are a hundred times greater.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
I can kind of understand that. Some people sign up for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) just to earn some money temporarily, rather than getting deeply involved in it. I think some women quit once they start feeling uncomfortable with it.
As for people who continue without an allowance, I can understand that too. There may be ulterior motives, but they have no way to make a move, and there’s no prospect of the relationship progressing, so it feels a bit pointless.
If you’re still able to enjoy dinner dates to some extent, why not continue? People like that are rather rare in their own way, aren’t they?
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I’m a lost 60-something myself.
Our reasons for reaching out to Type B women are different, but I actually found myself looking back and wondering, “Wait… did I ask this question?” (lol)
Rather than simply looking for someone young and inexperienced, aren’t you specifically targeting women with low incomes? Are you looking for someone who’ll continue seeing you even for an allowance around what you can afford?
It kind of shows that you’re not really valuing your partners.
At that age, of course they’re going to have various things going on in their private lives. In my case, I got my boyfriend to accept the situation, and things have continued steadily after she contacted me saying she wanted us to keep seeing each other as before… lol
Fortunately, it sounds like you’ve found a woman you click with. Please treat her well by offering a reasonable allowance—or by working on your own appeal.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
>There’s just one woman who still keeps in touch with me and actively joins me for dinner when I invite her, even after ending both her relationship with the club and her papa-katsu arrangement with me.
Actually, I’ve had a similar experience myself（笑）—though it was one of my few experiences with women.
Back then, people apparently compared me to Masaharu Fukuyama or Takashi Sorimachi—well, that just shows my age（笑）—so I never thought much of it. I’d have tea with her, go up to her room, and so on, but there was one woman with whom things ultimately never progressed to an adult relationship.
Looking back, I realized only much later that she had probably been interested in me too, and I simply failed to notice.
If it were me now, I’d probably say, “So, how about right now?” But back then, I couldn’t bring myself to say it（涙）
Well, that’s life.
Please cherish her and enjoy having that possibility to look forward to.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well.
Thank you for your question.
I suspect the issue may be that your allowance is too low.
You may be thinking that she used to be happy with that amount, or that you had met many times before. But you’re not the only man in the world.
At first, if you were the only man she knew, she may have thought, “I guess this is about what I’m worth.” But once she experiences other men casually giving her about twice as much, she may gradually start enjoying meeting those men more.
Occasionally, there are men who will give her the same amount just for dinner or a date. When that happens, they start to seem like wonderful men who recognize her value. She begins to enjoy simply having dinner with them and starts thinking, “I’d like to see him again.”
Even if it doesn’t go that far, if another man appears who offers more than twice as much for an adult relationship, she’ll no longer feel the need to meet you. And once she stops seeing you, she probably won’t even feel like replying to your messages.
And that’s goodbye.
If she’s truly a woman you don’t want to lose, you should offer more. If you can’t pay that much, then continue as you have been and recognize that you’re only a temporary option until someone willing to pay more comes along.
Rather than asking “Why?” after a woman you truly cared about has already left, I think you should first do everything you can. If it still doesn’t work, then ask yourself why.
If increasing her allowance beyond what you currently pay isn’t possible, try working on becoming more attractive yourself—though I think that would be dozens of times harder. If you think about it, you probably already know many of the answers yourself.
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