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Oct 22, 2020 00:26
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Men who only have brothers seem to have overly high expectations of women, or perhaps an idealized image of them. I’ve noticed this not only with men I’ve met through the club, but also with men I dated outside it. Many were cold and quick to lose interest, becoming disillusioned over even the smallest mistakes or mannerisms.
Maybe it’s my fault for only meeting people like that, but men with younger or older sisters often seemed more accepting, and I felt comfortable around them without having to be overly careful.
That said, if I were getting married, I wouldn’t want to date a man who has sisters.
So, at least through the club, I’d really like to get along and have a good time with men who have sisters. I’d love to give a “You seem wonderful” reaction to men with sisters, and I’d like to receive offers from them.
Am I the only one who feels this way?
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
Why not try writing on your profile: “I’d like to get along and have fun with someone who has sisters. Please only send offers if you have sisters.”
To be sure, you could ask the club to confirm whether each man has sisters whenever you receive an offer, and only accept offers from those who do.
Give it a try.
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
Thank you for your question.
That’s a very insightful analysis. With apps, men and women are generally on more equal footing, so I agree that having those kinds of details would be helpful.
However, at an exclusive dating club, the system is based on men making offers to women. So regardless of how much information is included in a man’s profile, it ultimately comes down to whether or not you accept his offer.
And unless you’re one of the more popular women, turning down an offer means you have no idea when the next one will come. So it’s usually better to meet him first, have a meal together, and get a sense of what kind of man he is.
For that reason, even if a man’s profile makes you think he must be cold-hearted, there are actually many men who turn out not to be that way in person. Rather than deciding not to meet him based on his profile alone, I think it’s better to meet him, talk with him, and judge for yourself what kind of person he is.
That said, since the site does have a male profile feature—though some men don’t fill theirs out—I do think, as you suggested, it would be reasonable to add one more item.
At the moment, we’re short on programmers, so we’re limited to making only the changes the CEO considers truly important. I hope we’ll be able to improve various aspects of the service once we have more programmers next year and beyond.
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Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Fullerene, a male member!
Sorry, but I’m not sure it really matters...
I got the impression that you might be fairly young.
I doubt there are many men who decide whether to make an offer based on whether a woman has brothers or not. If that’s the case, the question doesn’t really serve much purpose.
If that’s true even for women’s profiles, adding it to the men’s section would probably just be an inconvenience for everyone. If you’re curious, why not mention it in your self-introduction or ask when you receive an offer?
For what it’s worth, I have a younger sister, but I grew up in an environment with very little contact with women. (I’ll leave the details private.) That’s probably why I want to understand women on a deeper level.
As for whether I’m strict with women... honestly, I’m not sure.
Does the person asking the question have any brothers? If so, I’m sure you must be a good person.
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Universe member
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
This may be more of a request, but:
> Men who have sisters and men who don’t seem to have very different views of women...
I have both an older sister and a younger sister, so I can’t really say, but perhaps men who grew up with only brothers tend to have a stricter view of women(笑)
Since this is a recreational club, people do tend to have high ideals(笑)
It may be best to continue with someone who’s kind to both your heart and your wallet...
As for the profile, someone from the club may have something to say about it.