I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
Romane, thank you for promoting this m(_ _)m
I launched the “Papa-katsu Advice Center” to offer advice on concerns related to dealing with papas, but so far, every consultation has been about “not receiving enough offers.”
Complaints like “I don’t like this kind of papa” or “His manners are terrible” might actually be happy problems to have, in a way.
Please contact me using the information below if you’d like to discuss anything.
【How to Apply】
・Please email the address below with the following information, ①–④:
[ onayami@aol.com ]
① Your Universe Club member number and club name
② A brief overview of your concern
③ Your preferred consultation method (without a meeting or in person)
④ If you prefer an in-person consultation, whether you would like a female member to be present
For details, please see the column:
https://universe-club.jp/column/onayamisoudan
Maezawa from Shachoshitsu will answer this one as well.
Thank you for your question.
If you send me the names of your club and your friend’s club via the “Contact Us” link next to the question box, I may be able to give you a more specific answer.
But speaking in general:
What women consider cute—or beautiful—and what men consider cute or beautiful can be quite different.
When a woman brings her friend along and says, “She’s cute, right?” the reaction is often, “Huh? Cute…?”
But that woman may genuinely like her friend, holding hands with her and acting all lovey-dovey. She probably really does think her friend is cute.
Women also sometimes talk about how beautiful another woman’s collarbones are, but I’ve never met a man who says, “I really like a woman’s collarbones.” There may be some out there, of course, but they seem to be a minority.
Then there are women whom men feel inclined to make offers to.
Rather than someone who is beautiful but seems unapproachable, a woman with a lovely smile is more likely to receive offers.
Likewise, someone who has a somewhat refined, innocent look and seems modest and reserved may receive more offers.
Another factor is the relationship type.
Even when two women come in to register together, I think their interviews are usually conducted separately. In those cases, they often lie to each other about the details.
For example, one woman may say, “My friend chose Type A, so I chose A too,” when in fact her friend chose Type C.
But the staff can’t reveal that, so they simply say nothing.
And the only person who doesn’t know what’s going on ends up being the woman herself…
There are also all sorts of other factors: perhaps her friend had a larger bust, or perhaps she changed clothes and took her photos in something sexier.
There are simply too many possibilities to know what the actual reason was.
If you thought you were more beautiful than your friend, perhaps you underestimated the situation and didn’t change your clothes, chose Type A, or didn’t take the photo session seriously.
If you start putting in a real effort from this point on, you may still receive offers. Try thinking about what kinds of women men are looking for, and you may start getting more offers as well.
I’m Kazu, a male member.
Being beautiful doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll get offers. That’s because everyone is attractive, so it’s easy to get lost in the crowd.
From what I’ve noticed, women who get a lot of offers tend to have a refined, wholesome look, a larger bust, or hobbies older men enjoy, such as golf.
One more thought: if a woman is too beautiful, men may feel intimidated. Sometimes the only men who approach a truly gorgeous woman are the overly bold types, so surprisingly, she may not even have a boyfriend.
