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Oct 16, 2020 17:24
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https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/4783
I’m asking this based on the assumption that the male member didn’t check “Is it okay to confirm this with the other person?” in the survey section, so the lie was reflected without properly confirming it with the woman herself.
What exactly is the purpose of that checkbox?
Isn’t it strange that something gets added without verifying whether it’s true, and then, when the person concerned objects, the man who provided the information is penalized?
Surely he met her in person, felt that she was different from what had been written, and told the club about it out of goodwill. He sounds like a gentleman to me.
If the man who reported it is actually penalized in some way, then the balance seems completely wrong unless the man who lied is immediately forced to leave the club.
If this woman were to write about what happened in her survey, wouldn’t the club confirm it with the man? And if he gave some half-baked excuse, would that be the end of it?
The offers that fell through because lies were written about her wouldn’t come back, the kind man would be forced to leave, and the liar would be allowed to continue as if nothing happened?
Am I really the only one who thinks that’s absurd?
I thought that checkbox was there to ensure credibility, or to indicate that the information could be verified with the other person. How much value can a complaint have if the other party isn’t allowed to confirm it?
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Universe staff
Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
Thank you for your follow-up question.
> Isn’t it strange that the man who told her about it would be penalized?
If you tell someone something you’re not supposed to tell them, it’s only natural that you would receive a penalty.
For example, in Japan, breaking the law naturally results in punishment.
Even if you did it for that person’s own benefit, you would still be punished. Depending on the circumstances, there may be room for leniency, though.
For instance, even if someone protected a runaway girl and, thanks to them, she survived, if she was a minor, the person who took her in could still be arrested for crimes such as kidnapping.
You might say it’s strange for someone who rescued her to be penalized, but since obeying the law is considered a given, I assume the person arrested would still face some kind of punishment.
I’ve never heard of a news report saying, “The girl survived, so the person was released without charge.”
Also, if you’re going to ask a follow-up question, I don’t understand why you can’t provide more specific details—such as what exactly was allegedly lied about or what factors might have caused it.
Even if you simply say, “They lied about me,” we have no way of knowing whether it was really a lie or why it was written that way.
Wouldn’t it be better to explain the situation in more detail?
If you can’t do that, you might want to apply to the “Papa-katsu Advice Center.”
I’m not involved in running it myself, so I can’t say for sure whether your situation would be suitable.
【How to Apply】
・Please send an email to the address below containing the information in ①–⑤.
[onayami@aol.com]
① Your Universe Club membership number and club name
② The number of offers you have received so far
③ An overview of your concerns
④ Your preferred consultation method (online or in person)
⑤ Whether you would like a tarot reading
⑥ If choosing an in-person consultation, whether you would like a female member to attend
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
Let’s all stay calm. I don’t think it’s quite right to condemn someone based on the assumption that the questioner’s claims are accurate.
Feedback generally isn’t written on a profile. The examples I’ve seen were things like, “There was feedback saying she smoked,” or, “There was feedback saying she lied about her age on the date.” As far as I understand, feedback is added to a profile when a woman’s behavior during a date differs from what she reported in her profile—in other words, when a male member complains that the profile isn’t accurate. I searched for “feedback” on the members’ page and found 90 profiles. Most of those said things like, “Her feedback was good, so I increased her rating.”
As I understand it, negative feedback is added to a profile only when a male member reports that the information she provided at her interview was inaccurate.
Other
I’m Marika, a female member.
I thought it was absolutely ridiculous that being called a complainer just for pointing out that something written about you was a lie could happen. In the end, though, I came away feeling that women are seen as just one of many replaceable members who don’t pay anything.
With 8,000 members, I suppose they think losing one person won’t make any difference, even if that person’s credibility is questionable.
It’s awful that the man who tried to tell them—or rather, confirm the facts—was treated that way too.
I agree with what you said, question asker.
Not that my thoughts will change anything.
Oh, and I’m sorry for answering even though I’m not a staff member.