Tips Oct 16, 2020 11:15

If I was the one who invited him both the first and second time, and he agreed to meet, does that mean he’s not interested?

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He paid for the first meeting, and I treated him the second time. He walked me home both times, and especially the second time, even though we were walking, he stayed with me for about 30 minutes on the way back. I didn’t contact him after the second meeting, so we haven’t been in touch since. If he’s even a little interested, he would contact me first, right?
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I’m Kazu, a male member. The man probably made the offer and agreed to a second date because he had some expectations. You mentioned that you were the one who invited him—did you discuss the allowance? Some men don’t like women who are too forward. I don’t dislike assertive women myself, but if someone comes on too strong, it can be a turnoff. For example, after making an offer, I once found out that the woman was the very direct type who said, “It’s a hassle to spend four hours having dinner and then doing something afterward. Let’s just go straight to a hotel, do what we need to do, and call it a day.” I withdrew the offer. That made me realize that some women simply aren’t suited to dating clubs(笑). To answer your question: Based on what you wrote, the man might respond if you invite him, but it doesn’t seem like he’s interested enough to take the initiative himself. Generally speaking, if a man is interested, he’ll contact you first.
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Maezawa from the president’s office here. Thank you for your question. It would be easier to understand if you could provide a little more detail, but am I correct in understanding that: You’ve met successfully about twice, but you’re always the one doing the inviting and the man never invites you himself? If so, I don’t think you should be the one inviting him every time. If he wasn’t interested, he wouldn’t agree to meet. If he comes when you invite him, you’re probably not his top priority, but you’re likely still someone he wants to see when invited. If he had no interest, he would turn you down even when you asked. I don’t think you should invite him too often, but it might be a good idea to invite him occasionally and aim to meet about twice a month. Also, I’m not quite sure what you mean by saying that he treated you the second time, but even if you’re the one who invites him, I think it’s perfectly fine to let him treat you.
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