I have a question about whether to use a condom or not.
Women often ask—or complain?—that “there are many men who try to have sex without a condom, or even take it off partway through.”
Despite that, I feel that the respondents here all give the same goody-two-shoes opinions, like “That’s unacceptable” or “They should be punished!”
So, honestly, are all of you respondents really strictly condom-only?
No one asked, but for a first meeting, I put on a condom of my own accord.
For someone I feel I could continue seeing, I ask from the second meeting onward. So far, I haven’t met anyone who insisted on using a condom no matter what.
My sample size is small, so I’d love to hear about your extensive experiences and honest opinions.
As an aside, before doing it without a condom, I buy the woman a testing kit as well. (I feel like they’re somewhat happy about it.)
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office will answer as well.
Thank you for your question.
> It seems like all the respondents have been giving these very proper opinions, saying things like,
> “That’s outrageous.”
> “I’ll punish him myself!”
Hmm… It seems you haven’t properly read the answers.
Are you one of those people who only skims?
You should read them over several times until you understand them.
Then, I think you’ll realize they’re saying something completely different.
What’s “outrageous” is when someone does things on their own without trying to get the woman’s consent.
You should have been able to understand that if you’d read the answers properly. Did you not read them carefully, lack the ability to understand them, or simply struggle with Japanese?
If what you really wanted was to brag that no woman has ever refused your requests to go without a condom after the second time, then good for you.
Women do seem more likely to agree when the request comes from a gentleman, so although your question is strange（笑）…
I’m sure you’re probably a gentleman when you’re on a date.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
This is assuming there’s no mutual consent. If both people agree, though, wouldn’t going without a condom be okay?
That said, if a woman tells me, “It’s okay without one,” even though I didn’t ask, I’d actually use a condom. I’m worried about diseases.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
Of course it feels better without protection, and if I could, I’d want to do it that way too! (crying)
The main reasons I can’t are:
1. I don’t have the courage to say I want to do it without protection.
2. I’m afraid they’ll dislike me if I ask.
3. When I do it without protection, my body gets overwhelmed and I might end up falling for them, which scares me too.
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Takahashi, the Kanto Unit Manager, would also like to respond.
Thank you for your question.
I believe Ishii may have already answered, but we recommend using protection.
Ultimately, the decision is up to the two of you, so please take this simply as our recommendation. When it comes to the potential risk of sexually transmitted infections and other concerns, choosing to use protection would seem to offer the higher likelihood of avoiding them.
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I’m Kazu, one of the more sensible male members.
If each of us were seeing only one person, I’d want to do it without a condom too. It feels better that way.
But I can’t limit myself to just one person—I still want to make offers to others. And I can’t give a woman enough allowance to expect her to commit exclusively to me, nor can I guarantee that we’ll stay together indefinitely. I’d actually prefer women to have several other partners besides me, with whom they use condoms.
There have been women who said they were fine with going without a condom even though I hadn’t negotiated that, but I assume they normally do it that way, so I wouldn’t want to continue seeing them.
I remember writing something along the lines of “that’s unacceptable,” but in my case, what I consider unacceptable is trying to go without a condom without the woman’s consent. If both people agree, I have nothing to say about it.
I don’t think testing kits are reliable, depending on the product, so I occasionally get tested at medical facilities that offer anonymous testing.
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