I’m considering joining because I’m being cheated on, and I’m so hurt and frustrated. I was told anyone could ask questions, so I’d like to ask. Thank you in advance.

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here. Thank you for your question. > I’m considering joining because I’m upset that my partner is cheating on me. I think you should give it a try. You may come to realize that cheating and genuine feelings are two different things. In many cases, even when someone cheats, they still intend to return to the person they married in the end. For example, a man might cheat because he wants someone younger, while still planning to return to his wife for everything else. Or he may cheat with someone who makes him feel like a woman again because he no longer feels that way with his wife, while still thinking that his wife is the person he ultimately wants to return to. I’m sure it was a huge shock to learn that you weren’t the only one, but if you try going on dates with other people yourself, you may come to understand that genuine feelings and cheating are separate things. In the end, you return to your spouse—but you regard the affair as nothing more than a fling. That kind of world does exist. Taking it a step further, some couples decide to openly accept each other’s affairs because what they hate most is being kept in the dark. That way, there are no secrets. They can see the affair as an affair and their genuine feelings as being for each other. This may reduce their stress, stop them from arguing, and even help them treat each other more kindly. That said, you can’t really know how you’ll feel until you experience it. Rather than doing it out of revenge, try going on a date with someone else and see how it affects you. You may discover a whole new perspective. I definitely recommend registering. Of course, if you’ve been neglecting your appearance, you may not pass the interview. So first, take about a month to reclaim your former self—and your femininity—then come in for the interview.

I’m a male member, Fullerene! This may be directed mainly at the female members, but… If anyone has actually kept statistics on this, I’d love to hear about them. Still, I suspect there are far more married men than unmarried ones. The men women find attractive are attractive to other women too. Left unchecked, I think humans naturally tend toward polygamy. Men used to die more often in wars and such, so perhaps we evolved to be capable of loving many women to make up for that. (Try searching for “Lum’s Love Song” and give it a listen, haha.) I think all you can do is accept that’s just how men are, and keep cultivating the kind of appeal that makes him want to focus on you alone.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. I’m right in the middle of an affair, lol. The woman I’ve been seeing the longest through the club is getting married soon—to someone other than me. When we first met, she was already dating her future husband, and she said she joined to make up for what she felt was lacking in their relationship. Everyone has their own reasons for joining. With 7,000 women registered, I’m sure some joined because they were hurt and upset after being cheated on. Personally, though, I wonder: will joining really make you feel better just because you’re angry about being cheated on? Even if you join, you may be disappointed if no offers come in. And if offers do come, you might end up having an unpleasant time on a date with a complete stranger. I think you should consider those possibilities as well.