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Oct 12, 2020 20:43
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
Should I take your question exactly as written? If you’re looking for a woman who will genuinely engage with you without receiving an allowance, then I think you’re in the wrong place. This isn’t a matchmaking club.
If you mean that you’ll pay the allowance as agreed and, on top of that, look for a woman who will genuinely engage with you, then I understand what you’re saying.
To genuinely engage with someone, you also have to face them in return. People aren’t always looking straight ahead—we’re all looking around. If you’re looking at someone when they look at you, then you’re truly engaging with each other.
Rather than hoping the other person will face you, perhaps what matters is paying attention to the person you want to genuinely connect with.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
First and foremost, you have to like someone so much that you genuinely feel, “I’m happy to give her any amount of allowance—twice as much, even. I wouldn’t regret giving her whatever I can.”
Only when you feel that way can you truly connect with each other.
And only with a girl you feel that strongly about can you have someone who:
> faces you without needing an allowance.
Because a woman not needing an allowance is the equivalent, from a man’s perspective, of a man wanting to give her a generous allowance.
When two people genuinely like each other that much, the allowance becomes beside the point—the man wants to give plenty, while the woman doesn’t need that much. It feels like that balance can naturally work.
If you don’t like each other that deeply, you can’t truly face one another or listen to what the other person has to say. She won’t open up, share her thoughts, or come to you for advice, and I don’t think the kind of relationship you’re imagining will deepen.
Simply waiting or wishing for things won’t make them happen.
Unless you stir your own feelings and act on what you truly want, I don’t think a sense of fulfillment will arise.
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Universe member
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
> Is there any trick to finding a girl who will genuinely engage with you without needing an allowance?
I don’t think so.
Even if you’re providing an allowance, why not look for a woman who will genuinely engage with you precisely because of that arrangement?
I don’t think I’m blindly infatuated with the women I date, but when I open up and invest my feelings, some women respond in kind.
And when they do, they become even more adorable（笑).
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I’m Marika, a female member.
Everything Mr. Maezawa said is spot-on.
Please don’t join a dating club expecting to find someone who will be involved with you without an allowance.
Just like some men will cut a woman off the moment she asks for something—like Kazu—women will normally cut a man off if he says, “I’m special to you, so you don’t need an allowance, right?”
Even if they aren’t quite that cold, if you’re a good papa, women will appreciate and thank you—but an allowance should still be a given.
🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
I may be wrong, but I think the person asking this question is ultimately looking for a partner who will still pay an allowance, but genuinely engage with them and even say things like, “You don’t need to give me an allowance.”
They say, “I like you, so you don’t need to give me an allowance,” but you still say, “Thank you,” and give them the allowance anyway. That’s the kind of relationship you’re looking for, right?
I get it—I really do, lol.
I’m still immature myself and can’t fully deal with my loneliness on my own, so I understand how you feel. It’s not exactly a good look...
That said, a relationship like that almost never lasts^^;
Based on my limited experience, that kind of relationship is “the beginning of the end.” Sadly.
It might happen briefly, but sooner or later, it will inevitably come to an end.
In the end, you’ll be left with emotional scars. Are you really okay with that?
You may be unhappy with your current situation, but even if you manage to resolve that dissatisfaction, it will only be temporary. After that, it’s hell.
In the long run, I think a somewhat unfulfilling relationship centered around an allowance is healthier, both mentally and physically.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
Thank you for your question.
> Is there any trick to finding a girl who will be with me without needing an allowance?
No. That’s mistaken.
No. That’s mistaken.
No. That’s mistaken.
Please think carefully once again about what a dating club is.
A dating club is a place to look for someone to date while giving her an allowance.
At a dating club, expecting to date a woman without providing an allowance is far too self-serving. Of course, outside of dating clubs, that would be a perfectly normal way of thinking. So please leave the club without causing it any trouble and look for someone you can date without an allowance.
I understand that it may happen by chance, but I believe it’s wrong to make that your primary goal.
The kind of partner who doesn’t need an allowance is a girlfriend or a wife. You could look for a wife through a marriage agency, or look for a girlfriend somewhere other than a dating club.
Please use a setting that’s genuinely suited to what you’re looking for. Otherwise, you’ll only cause trouble.
If she’s your wife, then basically, you can stay together without an allowance until one of you eventually falls out of love with the other.
P.S. With a wife, isn’t it the case that you’re jointly earning income rather than giving her an allowance? I was under the impression that, in the event of a divorce, the wife is entitled to half of the family’s assets.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
As you said yourself, that’s basically what papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is. If the woman I was seeing suddenly told me she didn’t need an allowance at all, I’d probably end things.
I believe nothing is more expensive than something free, but if you’re looking for someone who will genuinely be with you without needing an allowance, I think the trick is to look outside a dating club.
I’ve never met a woman who was constantly talking about money, so I’m not sure how helpful my advice will be. Still, I feel that if men aren’t stingy, women are less likely to focus so much on money either. Why not offer it before she asks? That should increase the chances of her engaging with you without bringing up money.
That said, I think giving A-type or B-type women a generous allowance for tea or dinner dates is a bad move. In most cases, it will probably just raise the allowance they expect for an adult relationship (intimate) with you.
P.S. Mr. Maezawa, your wife has the highest allowance of all!
As you said, it’s half of the assets accumulated jointly during the marriage.