When inviting me to their room, several men I’ve met have said things like, “Don’t worry, I won’t do anything,” “I need to pick up my things, and your allowance is in the hotel room, so come with me,” or “There’s a desk here, so you can study if you want.” Since they haven’t even discussed the allowance, I end up thinking they might really mean it, which makes it very hard to refuse. I wish they would just ask straightforwardly, “How about going to a room?” Then I could mentally prepare myself and it would be much easier… Is this a standard line men use to invite someone, or am I just inexperienced?
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here—I’ll answer too.
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I’m surprised there are still men who do things like that nowadays, but that kind of approach was pretty common among young people back in the Showa era.
“I’m not going to do anything…” No way, right?
That said, I think there was also an explanation that by saying that, the woman could make excuses to herself: “I went because he said nothing would happen.”
Of course, that’s from the man’s point of view.
There was also that strange saying, “When she says no, she really means yes.”
Women weren’t supposed to openly say they wanted something back then, so this weird idea that they basically had to keep saying “No, no” was widespread.
It’s nostalgic to think about, but I never expected people to still be doing this in the Reiwa era（笑）
I don’t think this is a standard pickup line, but if there are men like that, I think it’s fine to ask directly:
“Is there an allowance even if I’m just going to your room?”
Actually, even if he says, “Let’s go to karaoke,” why not simply ask, “What about the allowance?”
You can’t know what a man is really thinking, so whenever you’re invited somewhere, ask about the allowance first. I think that will reveal his true intentions and help you prepare yourself.
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I’m Marika, a female member.
If he says, “Don’t worry, I won’t do anything from now on,” you should understand that he actually means he will.
You’ll learn after it happens a few times, right?
Make sure to discuss the allowance.
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I’m Basil, a male member.
I normally don’t say things like, “Why don’t you come up to my room? Nothing will happen.” But I have said that to girls who turned me down with, “I’m on my period, so maybe next time.”
Contrary to what I expected, she came—and gave me oral sex.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I’m from the Showa era too, but…
Wait—was that really the right answer? (lol)
I think she simply couldn’t bring herself to say it honestly and directly.
My guess is that she was just a naïve kid who couldn’t talk about the allowance…
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Men who say things like that probably haven’t lost their inner child. They’re likely unfortunate people whose minds stopped developing around the age of twenty.
That doesn’t mean you need to take pity on them and go to their room. Tell him, “Please give me my transportation money.” If he starts arguing, report it to the club, saying that he didn’t give you the transportation money on the spot.
As an aside, do men around twenty still try to take women to a hotel by saying, “I won’t do anything”? Takes me back. There was also the classic line, “Just the tip.”
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
Ding ding—correct! That’s the old-school Showa-era approach: that stingy “maybe I can get some free intimacy out of this” attitude brings back memories (lol).
Don’t let him fool you. Before going to his place, make sure you agree on the terms of the arrangement first.
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