To prevent problems, I always submit feedback after every date, including second and subsequent dates.
The other day, one of my arrangements ended through social media rather than after an actual date. We did meet two or three times.
In a case like this, should I still submit feedback?
When he indirectly asked me to lower my allowance and I refused, he gradually cut off contact. I think the club already knows from my past feedback that I’m very focused on money and that he wasn’t exactly a gentleman.
When I think about it that way, I wonder if I shouldn’t send anything, since the information wouldn’t really be useful and might only make the staff uncomfortable…
But if he submitted feedback that didn’t match the facts, my rating could end up being worse than it deserves, so I’m torn.
Maezawa from the President’s Office here with an answer as well.
Thanks for your question.
As Mac said, I’d appreciate it if you could post it here too.
But setting that aside,
> Should I still leave feedback in a situation like this?
Yes, it would be helpful. It gives us a better understanding of the men involved.
> He indirectly asked me to lower my allowance, and when I declined, he faded out.
That’s really nothing unusual. Your expectations simply didn’t match, so I don’t think it means you’ll be viewed as being overly money-focused.
If the man left feedback saying you were too money-focused, he probably didn’t include the details. If you leave feedback as well, people can see that it wasn’t about money—it was simply a mismatch in terms.
Being money-focused isn’t about whether the allowance is high or low.
Even if a woman receives a high allowance, if she’s someone you genuinely want to spend time with—someone who’s thoughtful, makes the man feel respected, and tries to accommodate his wishes—she’s not necessarily money-focused.
Have more confidence in yourself.
At the same time, try to think about what the man is looking for and act accordingly.
If you then set your allowance expectations higher, that isn’t particularly strange.
Of course, if the amount is too high, the other person may simply decide that allowance is beyond what they can offer.
For example, if you’re extremely confident in a painting you created and try to sell it for a high price, does that automatically make you look like someone who’s only interested in money? I don’t think it does.
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This is Takei from the Yokohama branch of Universe Club.
Some members do provide feedback even after their second meeting and beyond.
That said, when two people continue seeing each other, their impressions of one another may gradually change—for better or worse.
The club doesn’t know how many times you’ve met after the first date, but we carefully keep any feedback we receive on file as reference. We can generally tell how many pieces of feedback have come from the same person, so even if one of them contains a negative comment, it won’t automatically lead to a poor evaluation. Please rest assured.
(However, if we receive similar comments from different people one after another, the club may contact you to confirm the situation.)
Feedback is optional, so if it feels like a burden, you’re welcome to refrain from responding.
That said, we truly appreciate hearing your opinions, so please feel free to contact us if anything comes up.
I hope this is at least somewhat helpful.
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