This is about a woman I’ve met three times over four months. She said she didn’t know her schedule for our next meeting, and when I emailed to say I’d like to see her, she didn’t reply at all. I figured she’d find it annoying if I kept contacting her, so I had another woman arranged and was starting fresh. Then, about a month later, I received an email from her saying she wanted to meet. I do like her and would like to continue seeing her, but what do you think this means? ① Her work schedule is vague, so she can’t make plans ② She has someone she really likes, and his schedule comes first ③ It’s simply due to the way she rotates her dates ④ She wants to keep me around as a man who’s convenient for her in every sense (lol). I’d appreciate your thoughts.

I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this one as well. Thank you for your question. She sounds like the kind of woman who simply wants your help when she’s in a difficult situation. Don’t worry about it too much. Continue seeing other women, and when she reaches out, meet her on the day she prefers. That should allow the relationship to continue.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. Understood. I’ll do the reading later, so please wait a little. [Update: Tarot Reading Results] I did a Yes/No reading for questions ①–④. ① His work schedule is too unpredictable for him to make plans. — **Yes** ② He has someone he considers his first choice, and her schedule comes first. — **Yes** ③ It’s simply due to the woman’s dating rotation. — **No** ④ He wants to make you a man who’s convenient for him in every sense. — **Yes** [Advice] When I asked what you should do right now, I drew a card suggesting that being controlled by desire could lead to poor judgment. If you try to get your own way—for example, by insisting on seeing her frequently instead of matching her pace—things may not go well. When I asked what you should do going forward, I drew a card suggesting that trust and bonds should be built on a foundation of morality. By continuing the relationship at her pace, it seems likely to develop into a good relationship where you can both be sources of emotional support for each other. You may be unhappy that you can’t see someone you like very often, but this is a long-term game. Keep supporting her, and it should lead to a positive outcome.

I’m in Seattle. It may be all of ①, ②, ③, and ④. The only way to change that would be to double the allowance. If you’re not willing to pay double, you should be satisfied with the current situation and look for someone else.

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. ⑤ Maybe it’s that you don’t really want to meet, but you do want to meet when you’re in a bind… If you don’t invite her and simply leave things be, you might be able to meet once every month or two. Women will probably reach out to arrange a meeting even if the man doesn’t initiate, so I think it’s easier to leave the frequency of meetings up to her.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I can’t answer that, since only the woman herself would know the reason. If she’s someone you like, I think it’s fine to simply agree to meet whenever she contacts you and your schedule allows. Once you get to know each other better, her attitude might change. Or it might not（笑） As an aside, one of the women I see also sends me spontaneous messages saying she wants to meet. When I asked her about it, she said she just doesn’t like making plans in advance.