I can’t get wet at all—is this an illness? I want to be able to get wet naturally, so please tell me anything that might help. Even when I receive offers, they don’t last long, perhaps because I can’t get wet… What should I do? If there are any treatments, please let me know. I feel sad every time I use lubricant.

Maezawa from the President’s Office here. Thank you for your question. Very rarely, there are women who hardly get wet at all. I imagine it’s probably similar to how some people barely sweat. > Because I don’t get wet, my arrangements never seem to last even when I receive offers… That may not be the only reason. You may be at a slight disadvantage compared with women who do get wet, but I think you can easily make up for it by making an effort in other areas. When you’re being intimate, focus on pleasing the man—really go all out. If you devote yourself to him that much, I think he’ll eventually stop worrying about whether you’re wet. When he feels that there’s no other woman who treats him so well, he’ll want to see you again. And besides, intimacy isn’t everything. A woman who is charming in everyday conversation, her mannerisms, and so on will still make a man want to see her again, even if the intimate side is somewhat lacking. The problem is when you’re about average in those other areas as well. In that case, the man may simply move on to someone else. You may have a disadvantage, but if you work on your other strengths, I’m sure you can become the kind of woman many different men won’t want to let go of. > I feel sad every time I use lubricant. I don’t think you need to feel sad about it. I think it’s better to look at it positively.

This is Ishibashi from the Chiba branch. Personally, I think it may be more of a mental thing. The more you think, “I have to get wet! I have to get wet!” the more anxious you become, which might actually make it harder to get aroused. Why not try having sex once without thinking about anything and just relaxing?

I’m Tetsu, a male member. I don’t know whether it’s due to a medical condition or simply individual differences, but personally, when a woman doesn’t get wet, I can’t help feeling that she isn’t very sexually aroused. The reality is that sexual compatibility plays a major role in deciding whether a relationship will last, so I think your observation that this may be why relationships don’t continue is correct. However, it’s also true that men don’t decide whether to continue seeing someone based solely on physical compatibility. I’m sure there are men who would still want a long-term relationship with you even if you don’t get wet easily. It might be a good idea to explain the situation honestly and look for someone who is still comfortable with it. This may sound a bit like a matter of mindset, but if you worry about it too much, you might start disliking sex itself, which could make it even harder to get aroused. Being able to share your concerns with each other may help you feel a little more at ease.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I’ve heard that sometimes not getting wet can be caused by emotions or stress. Don’t rush—why not try using something like Lube Jelly and see how things go for a while? Come to think of it, most women who are good at sex masturbate.