I’m the male member who was previously judged to be annoying. Since my last question, it seems the number of annoying people has increased quite a bit—which is great… well, actually, it’s a problem. My question after a long absence is what I should have done in the following situation. I’d appreciate some tough love and encouragement from both male and female members.
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The PJ who had come from far away was sleeping on the bed while taking in the beautiful bay view and night scenery. We had French cuisine for lunch, then went for a drive, and finally arrived at the hotel. She spent the two hours before dinner in the room, but showed absolutely no interest in getting intimate—she was taking a power nap. When I tried to hug her and give her a Magikarp kiss, she told me, “Not right now,” and turned me down. That night, we had sex that felt more like an obligation, just once, same as the previous time. It had been a month since our last meeting, and I was hoping she might be even a little more interested in intimacy, but of course, nothing had changed.
During the date, she kept tapping away on her phone and taking photos, but we barely talked, and the distance between us felt even greater than before. Sorry, this isn’t really a question—it’s basically just me venting. I’m also struggling with how to end things.
For reference, including transportation costs and her allowance, I paid a little over ¥20,000.
I’m Marika, a female member.
I can’t believe you’re willing to spend ¥20,000 plus on a date like that. That woman is seriously taking you for a fool. She doesn’t want a relationship with you, but your allowance is generous enough that she figures she might as well keep you around. There’s no need to worry about how to break things off—just stop contacting her and it’ll be over. If she runs out of money, she might contact you herself, though.
There was a question about mama-katsu, and when I imagined having a young, cute guy keep me company, giving him an allowance, and then hearing him say behind my back, “That old hag was seriously disgusting today,” I was like, “No way!”
I’ve gained a new respect for all you papas. You must have some really strong mental fortitude.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
I can really picture how the date went. I know exactly what you mean.
What you hope for and what you get in return don’t always match… It’s pretty difficult, isn’t it?
It’s easy to turn someone down, but it might be worth talking things over first. You may come up with a solution once you’ve had a chance to discuss it.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
Thank you for your question.
It feels a bit like bait—especially since you went out of your way to mention trying to go in for a deep kiss—and a bit like bragging, what with the “a little over ¥200,000 including transportation and allowance” comment.
I’m not really sure what to make of it.
> And even the intimacy later that night felt like an obligation.
You are managing to have an adult relationship, aren’t you?
You go for drives,
spend time chatting in private,
have dinner together,
and are intimate.
Put differently, it sounds like you’re getting to enjoy quite a bit of the feeling of being in a relationship.
It seems that what bothers you is that she doesn’t lose herself during intimacy.
If that’s the case, perhaps you should look for a woman who does.
That said, I get the impression that you like everything about the relationship except the intimacy.
You might want to make offers to more women and look for someone who is a better match for you.
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I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
Exactly. Don’t you ever find yourself thinking, “What am I doing here...?” over breakfast the next morning after an overnight date? lol
Staying over tends to lead to regret unless you’re really close, so I generally don’t want to do it unless she’s truly exceptional ^^;
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