My first time asking a question.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. I think if you simply stop contacting her, things will naturally fizzle out. I suppose it would be best if you could be intimate without going down on her, but it sounds like you enjoy doing that. Seeing a woman’s reaction really gets men fired up—especially when using their tongue and fingers. That said, when you consider concerns about not only tonsillitis but also STIs and HIV, there’s also the option of reserving that kind of intimacy for your partner. So perhaps you should consider leaving it out. With my longtime girlfriend, I’ve used my tongue and fingers and gone down on her, but after 20 years, she recently finally admitted, “I actually don’t like being licked.” (The longer you’re together, the more demands they seem to have…)

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. I’ve had an experience where, no matter how hard we tried, our anatomy just wouldn’t line up. Mine curves slightly downward, while hers was positioned extremely low. Even when I tried adjusting things in the missionary position—basically throwing from underneath like an underhand pitch—mine would just bend awkwardly. She was a popular AV actress I really liked, and it was my first offer. But considering the overall terms and everything else, I ultimately decided it would be difficult to continue seeing her. Her allowance was higher than the going rate, so I turned her down by saying, “The allowance is a bit too difficult for me to keep paying…” I couldn’t exactly say, “Our anatomy doesn’t line up.” lol Looking back, maybe I should have focused on rear-entry, but that idea simply didn’t occur to me at the time. ^^;

Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here as well. Thank you for your question. > Honestly, giving cunnilingus makes my throat hurt, so I feel bad saying I don’t want to meet her again. Is there any good way to turn her down? I don’t quite understand this part. Are you saying that your preferences are different from most people’s—that you don’t like penetration at all and only really enjoy cunnilingus, so whether you want to see a woman again is decided solely by that one factor? If so, I can understand why you’d want to decline. In that case, it seems like things would naturally fade out if you simply didn’t make plans for another meeting. If that isn’t the case, you could also continue seeing her without doing that.

I’m Kazu, a male member. This is really a reply to Megumi, but if possible, I do want to go down on my partner. It’s not that enjoyable for me if I don’t. If I were going to have convenient sex without going down on someone, I feel it would be easier just to visit an adult entertainment venue, so I can really understand how the questioner feels. That said, Riichi has written an excellent answer. As you said, telling someone, “Going down on you makes my throat swell up,” would be extremely rude. So why not simply stop seeing her without giving a reason and look for a woman whose tonsils are more compatible with yours? I’ve never had my tonsils swell up from going down on someone, but there are women whose smell is strong or simply not to my taste, making me not want to do it. In those cases, I just don’t see them again without explaining why. A postscript after reading Maezawa’s answer: That’s a sharp observation. Come to think of it, I don’t really like penetration at all—I’ve always loved both giving and receiving oral sex.