Question about reducing the allowance.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. I’ll just share my honest impression after reading your question. I don’t think this is really an issue of the allowance. Unless you can afford to keep seeing someone despite being incompatible, I think you should end the relationship if the two of you aren’t a good match. I felt relieved when I saw Mack point out, so directly, something I’d been wondering about on this message board. I think we should refrain from making comments that imply prostitution. I do understand the desire to hear or make that kind of comment—I feel it myself—but let’s follow the law.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. Personally, I’m in favor of negotiating a lower allowance. It’s beneficial not only for male members, but also for helping female members continue their arrangements. That said, most male members aren’t particularly eager to negotiate. Since the terms feel too expensive, they simply move on to the next woman. Women, on the other hand, tend to think, “But I’m attractive!” Either way, both the man and the woman need to make a firm decision about how seriously they’re going to approach the relationship. Once they do, the allowance will naturally fall into place.

I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer as well. Even though Mac is concerned about you, Universe’s policy is not to get involved in allowances—and that’s the whole point of his concern. Without commenting on the amount, I’ll try to answer somehow (lol). If you thought, “We’re not very compatible in bed,” you’d normally stop seeing her afterward. So the fact that you’re struggling over it makes me think you’re probably a very kind person. In that case, if you’re the compassionate type, I think it would be good to say something like: “Actually, things have become a bit tight for me recently, so I can’t give you as much of an allowance as before. Would that still be okay?” Then you could discuss the allowance again at that point. Reducing the amount may not look good, but deliberately taking that less-than-ideal position for the woman’s sake—that attitude is admirable. As a man, you might wonder how that would come across, but after hearing the whole story, I find myself thinking: “That’s a real man.” It’s actually quite impressive. I don’t know if it’s the best option, but I think reducing the amount could be acceptable. By the way, when I always say that men should offer the amount the woman wants, I mean “if you really like her.” Everyone has different kinds of compatibility. You don’t need to force yourself, but sometimes showing that kind of backbone can be pretty cool.

I’m Flagmaker, a column writer. Why not give that woman another chance? There may still be an unopened drawer.

I’m a male member named Basil. I’ve never offered 100, nor have I generally reduced the allowance. Cutting the allowance is pretty uncool, isn’t it? Normally, I’d have chosen “1,” but in this case, if the woman’s expectation is 50, I feel that “3” could work too. If you still don’t feel compatible after the second meeting, you can simply end things there. Unless she’s someone you never want to see again, if you’re willing to offer 100, there must be some appeal there. To leave room for continuing the arrangement, I think it’s better to avoid “2.”

I’m Kazu, a male member. I completely understand the idea that reducing the allowance feels uncool. To avoid putting myself in that situation, I keep the allowance fixed. If I end up feeling afterward that the allowance wasn’t worth it, I simply won’t meet her again. If I turn down her invitations a few times, using being busy and other reasons, I think she’ll take the hint and stop asking. If she still invites me, I’d probably tell her, “I didn’t feel very satisfied, so I don’t think I want to meet again.” If I had splurged and paid more, as the questioner did, I think I’d do the same thing. I’d turn down her invitations a few times, saying I was busy, and if she still asked, I’d clearly decline. Of the options, I suppose it would be “4. Other: try avoiding her for a while.”