I’m seeing an 18-year-old girl who has had only one previous male partner and is practically a virgin.
She’s a Type B match introduced to me through Universe.
After two semi-platonic dates, we’re planning our third date soon.
Last time, I escorted her to my room, but since she was on her period, we only kissed before going our separate ways.
When the staff asked her about it, she said she was prepared for an adult relationship (intimate), and in response to my own questions, she told me that she could see our relationship developing further.
She has no experience with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and I want to treat her well. What are the key points to keep in mind if we’re to progress to an adult relationship (intimate)?
Since there’s a significant age gap between us, I can’t help but overthink things.
I’m a confused man in my 60s.
Taking a break right now… phew.
Putting the timeline back together: I told her I was prepared to go through with it, and even went up to the room. But when I saw the allowance she offered, I was so disappointed that I blurted out that it was my time of the month!
I didn’t think I could just leave, so I allowed a kiss, but…
I ended up promising to meet her again. What should I do?
If she isn’t clear about things, I’ll cut her off!
The questioner’s timeline wasn’t very clear, so I’m guessing that’s what happened…
Well then, time to get back on…♪
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
The key is not to forget the fundamental point:
“It’s an arrangement in exchange for an allowance.”
Don’t ever misunderstand that.
As sad as it is, that’s the reality ^^;
If you truly want to treat her as someone important, treating her well should go without saying—but this is a dating club.
Unfortunately, that means increasing the allowance. Please be careful not to misunderstand that either.
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here, answering as well.
A woman once told me that having had one previous partner (apparently, two or three is also common) gets the best response from men. (笑)
(That said, some women apparently claim to have had one partner even though they’re actually virgins—but you can tell once you sleep with them.)
> What are the key points for developing the relationship into an adult relationship (intimate)?
Discuss the allowance properly in advance.
Offer the amount the other person is asking for.
(If you can afford it, offering more than they requested will put you in an even better position.)
These may seem like obvious things.
(Many women have told me, “The man never brings up the allowance,” so I feel this is actually pretty important.)
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I’m in Seattle.
Make sure to pay the agreed-upon allowance promptly and without fail.
It’s also a good idea to occasionally ask if there’s anything she’d like you to change or improve. I’m sure women have things they put up with, too.
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I’m Rin, a female member.
If your partner is also indicating that she’s open to an adult relationship (intimate), wouldn’t it be best to just treat her normally?
Even if there’s a significant age gap, anyone who dates you in exchange for an allowance—whether she’s inexperienced or accustomed to this—wants to be valued just the same.
Whatever you do, please be careful not to become self-centered by saying things like:
“I’ll train you,”
or
“I’ll turn you into my kind of woman.”
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member who was shocked by the news of the actress’s death this morning—“She was so young.” Every morning, the roads are emptier than I’ve ever seen them, so I’m genuinely worried about how the economy will fare from here.
That said, the person asking this question is a lucky man with a lot to be grateful for.
Given the girl’s age, I think it’s still impossible to predict how things might develop.
And as for the fact that she was on her period… what was she really trying to imply?
> She told me that she could see things developing into a relationship with me.
Most girls would say something like that if asked, so were you able to discuss the amount of the allowance as well?
If you can agree on the amount, I think things will progress into a relationship smoothly.
In that case, rather than agreeing on a monthly arrangement or a large lump sum, I think it would be best to decide on a pay-per-meeting allowance and proceed from there.
> She has no experience with papa-katsu, and I want to treat her well.
Looking at it another way, you’re dealing with an amazing young woman who’s doing papa-katsu in her teens. That’s the exact opposite of someone who has no papa-katsu experience even by age 24. She’s more experienced than you are, so just relax and enjoy things.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Aside from being a virgin, I don’t think the number of previous male partners has much to do with how difficult it is to enter into an adult relationship (intimate). All of the women I’ve dated had been with around two or three men before joining the club. (Also, when women talk about their number of partners, casual one-night encounters often aren’t counted.)
Whether a woman has been with 100 men or just one, let’s value them equally. If there’s one thing to keep in mind, it’s to treat them well without being hesitant.
At the beginning, the asker’s use of “requesting someone by name” made me wonder if they were into strangulation masturbation, so Mac’s answer made me laugh. Thanks for your hard work.
Papua, when referring to a woman, it’s not yarō—it’s merō (女郎).
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