I was shocked to hear from a woman I know that one of the men she was seeing suddenly tried to have unprotected sex with her without asking. Apparently, he obediently put on a condom when she told him to, but then tried to do it unprotected again on their next date. I can’t believe she was willing to meet someone like that again—and I’m also surprised by how forgiving she’s been in not cutting him off yet.

I’m a male member, Basil. I really enjoy going without protection, but I’ve never done it without the woman’s consent. About half the women ask me to use one themselves. Even when they don’t, I always ask something like, “I’d be happy if we went directly like this, but would that be okay?” More than half say no. Fewer than 20% overall are okay with going without protection, and even then, most attach conditions such as “don’t finish inside” or “just a little.” Some have even negotiated the amount in detail, saying things like, “If it’s only a little, then add 10,000 yen…” Even without being asked, I’d cover medication and pay something extra. As for diseases, I see that as a risk we both take. Regarding pregnancy, I’ve resigned myself to resolving it with money if the worst happens. Fortunately, I haven’t had any problems so far. There are all kinds of men out there, so if you’re stepping into this world to achieve your goals, rather than relying solely on your partner, why not consider taking measures to manage the risks yourself as well?

I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s Office, and I’ll answer this as well. Not many people share that kind of information in their feedback after a date, so I have no idea how common it really is. But when I hear “30%,” I do think, “That does sound about right.” Still, these are relationships between people, so you should always get the other person’s consent first. If they say no, accept it and move on. I’d like everyone to remember that this is simply basic human decency.

I’m Kazu, a male member. Seriously? Thirty percent… What a bleak state of affairs. So this is what it means to want to look up at the heavens. Condoms aren’t just for contraception, either. > Mac I don’t think there are any taboos between a man and a woman as long as both parties consent. I have no issue with consensual sex without a condom. Well, actually, I do have one—I’m jealous.

I’m Rin, a female member. They’re out there—acting all casual about it. Some men even puff out their chests and lecture you, saying, “You can’t use one! It’s no good!” And, almost without fail, they say things like, “I’m sterile,” or “I’ve had a vasectomy…” Even I’m no spring chicken, and it shocked and frightened me. I can only imagine how terrifying it must be for younger female members. If you can’t bring yourself to tell them to use one, some idiot men will probably gradually pressure you into going without. It honestly makes me sick.