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Sep 24, 2020 14:08
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I just finished having new photos taken, so updating them again right away seems difficult.
I’ve uploaded two private photos, and both have received likes, so I don’t think they’re bad photos.
I also update my comments and calendar about once a week.
One of the offers I received fell through because our schedules didn’t work out. Of the four men I met, I’m still seeing two of them, but we’re able to meet so infrequently that I can’t really call either relationship satisfying. (Of course, I intend to continue seeing both of them.)
Is there anything I can do in this situation?
Should I focus on trying to get new offers, or should I approach the two men I’m currently seeing and try to meet them more often?
My BMI is 18, so I don’t think I need to lose weight.
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My name is Kurosaki from the Osaka branch of Universe Club.
Receiving five offers is quite impressive☆
It also looks like you’ve been making an effort with your reshoot, profile comments, calendar updates, and so on♪
Now, getting to the point: I think using other apps or clubs would be the most effective option. But if we’re talking specifically about Universe Club, the only thing I can suggest is something like, “You’re lovely.”
Other than that, I suppose you could simply “wait”??
This varies by branch, but men may be able to see how many dates a woman has had.
In other words, telling a man, “You’re my first, so I’m nervous~♡” may not always work.
I’ve gotten a little off track again, but what I’m trying to say is that things become less favorable for you with each additional date.
That’s because most men prefer women who have had fewer dates.
It’s important to aim for new offers, but I recommend focusing more on building longer-lasting relationships with the men you’re currently seeing♪
That said, men have their own pace, so simply trying to meet more frequently may be difficult.
Good luck!!!
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the executive office here, answering your question as well.
> Rather than pursuing new offers, should I try to approach the two people I’m currently seeing so I can meet them more often?
I think the two you’re currently seeing probably want to keep meeting at their current pace, so I wouldn’t recommend approaching them too persistently.
That said, if you’re currently meeting once a month, you may have a chance of seeing them twice a month if you approach them about it.
However, if you ask for more than that, your approach could backfire and they may start feeling like they no longer want to see you, so I’d be careful.
In that case, it would be better to find a way to receive new offers. If you had five offers after having your photos retaken, it seems fairly normal for the offers to stop afterward.
Still, just to be safe, you could ask the staff at your branch:
“My offers have stopped coming in. Is there anything I can do to receive more?”
The point isn’t necessarily to get a direct answer. It’s to get the staff thinking, “I wonder why the offers stopped coming in?”
They may notice something and help you correct it, even if they give the women the usual general advice.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
My vote goes to Megumi, a female member!
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🏅 明け方に低頻度で浮上する回答者です
細く長く続けばいいなあ
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Fulleren, a male member!
Move and switch branches!!
…That’s a little difficult, though.
But you could try expanding the people you send “You seem wonderful” to, including members from other branches.
I sometimes get “You seem wonderful” from members at distant branches too, and it makes me think they must have read my profile carefully.
Age: 60s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m a male member named Basil.
Offers tend to decrease over time, and even if you receive them, there’s no guarantee they’ll continue. How long have things been going on with your current two, and how often do you meet?
As long as it hasn’t been so long that they’re getting bored, I’d vote for approaching those two again.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを!
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中!
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです!
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Hikōki, a male member.
Men may not remember the important details at all, but somehow women’s photos tend to stick in their memories.
If you update your comment weekly, they’ll remember it perfectly. Even if you update once a month or every other month, you should probably assume that a man who happens to see your profile again after several months will still recognize you—the memory will come back to him.
With photos, updating them every two or three weeks should still be effective as selection information, as long as they haven’t been heavily edited.
Since you’ve already received five offers, I don’t think you need to make any major moves. If you’re that popular, clicking “You’re lovely!” also seems like it could be effective.
Since I made my profile public this month, I’ve started enjoying watching the number of “You’re lovely!” messages increase every day, rather than browsing new women. I’m also thinking about making an offer to one of the women who sent me a “You’re lovely!” message at some point.
I’m surprised by how much fun the system is. I think it’s worth giving it a try.
> Rather than aiming for new offers, should I focus on approaching the two women I’m already seeing so I can meet them more often?
As for how often to meet, I think it’s best to start by approaching them and then judge from their reactions.
Ask proactively about the days you’d like to meet. If they’re usually able to meet without much trouble, you can gradually increase the frequency to that level. If meetings are often postponed, it’s probably better to hold back a little.
Since you currently don’t have any offers, I think it would be better to focus on deepening your relationships with these two women and approaching them about meeting. If you start looking elsewhere, there’s a risk that both relationships may drift away.
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Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
As Mac mentioned in his answer, I recommend the “Papa-Katsu Advice Center.”
Rather than simply repeating what Mac said, I’d like to share a few thoughts of my own.
First of all, if a woman has photos edited with apps like SNOW, I’ll probably decide not to make an offer. I understand why women who don’t show their faces would want to hide them, but when I see photos with unnaturally enlarged eyes, I can’t help wondering when dating clubs turned into dating apps. It really turns me off. You can meet women like that for a thousand yen, so I prefer unedited photos.
As for meeting about once a week, that feels a little too frequent for me, so I’d back off. It sounds like the kind of schedule a professional papa-katsu girl would have. I privately call them “professional PJs.” To describe them in one phrase, they’re the type who post things on Twitter like, “I took care of three old guys’ dicks today.”
I’m not interested in meeting women like that, so I probably wouldn’t make an offer. To be clear, it’s not that I dislike women who have a lot of papas. I just don’t like feeling as though I’m being treated like a fool. If I disliked women with multiple papas, I wouldn’t have dated a woman who had seven papas, including me.