I’m Paper Airplane, a meatball-shaped, bald, idiot graduate of A University and a male member. I have a question prompted by someone’s relisting. There’s a woman I’ve continued seeing almost every week for nearly six months. She was more of a Type B than Type A, but she has now been relisted. (I had heard she was taking a break, and we even talked about asking another male member to confirm whether she had really suspended her activity. Apparently, she really had.) What shocked me was that she had changed from Type B to Type C. (Her profile and video still seem more like Type A, though.) I was surprised, and lately, when I’ve jokingly brought up going to a hotel, she hasn’t denied it. Part of me finds it understandable, but my thoughts are all tangled up. I’m glad her break was genuine, but her change to Type C leaves me feeling both happy and somewhat shocked—it’s complicated. I had also heard she took a break because she was busy, so it doesn’t seem strange that she would resume now that things have settled down.
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Until now, we’ve enjoyed spending time together affectionately without even kissing. Continuing to see her worked well physically, since it helped me balance my time with other women, and she was also someone special whom I wanted to see every week, even if it was just for dinner or something similar.
However, her return may mean that something has changed in her mindset. The fact that she changed her type makes me think so even more.
Perhaps a pigheaded, bald, idiotic pervert like me isn’t even on her radar…
So my questions are: What would be the best way for me to proceed? And what might she be feeling by relisting and changing to Type C? I’d appreciate any answers or advice. I’ve also considered the following:
① Pretend I don’t know and continue seeing her as before
② Tell her that I know she has resumed activity and changed her type
③ Continue seeing her while not expecting an adult relationship (intimate) and keeping it transactional
④ Stop seeing her altogether or reduce how often we meet
What do you think?
I’m Kamihikōki, a male member.
Thank you all for your replies.
It was helpful to hear several different perspectives.
Regarding the girl I mentioned in my question, I happened to make her an offer around the day she joined, and she suspended her membership immediately after that first offer. Seeing that her account really was suspended cleared up my concern—based on what I’d learned from the Q&A—that it might not necessarily have been true. At the same time, she had also changed her type, which was a small but refreshing surprise.
If I hadn’t learned what I did here, I would have simply been happy to see that she had suspended or canceled her membership. But I had wondered whether the suspension might have been a lie, so I’m relieved on that front.
Unlike the girls who are still registered, the girl who suspended her membership right away had a distinctive way of talking. She would innocently tell me about things happening on days we weren’t meeting—tomorrow, yesterday, next week, this week—along with all sorts of plans and stories. Realizing that she actually had been on suspension has made me feel a little happy, too.
I may come to understand which pattern she fit as we continue seeing each other, or it may be something I don’t need to concern myself with. For now, I’d like to let things unfold naturally.
Thank you all for your encouragement.
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I’m Marika, a female member.
I thought all the answers were in, but surprisingly, there aren’t many responses from women.
I completely agree with Basil’s opinion. Some people say there’s no point in posting if you’re just going to say the same thing, but I think it carries a slightly different meaning when it comes from a woman.
Even young women who look innocent can be surprisingly savvy!
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I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this one too.
Thanks to Kami-hikōki-san spending time with her over dinner only each time, she gradually became more comfortable dating older men and finally found the courage to take the step toward an adult relationship (intimate).
In other words, she’s been “left to mature.”
And now she’s ready to be enjoyed. (笑)
That said, she’s probably still at a stage where she feels hesitant about being the one to say she wants you to hold her, so I think it would be appropriate for Kami-hikōki-san to make the invitation. (笑)
Once they’ve entered an adult relationship (intimate), whether Kami-hikōki-san parts ways with her as a sort of graduation, or continues seeing her, is entirely up to him.
Some time ago, a Type A woman with no prior experience was introduced to a man who was fine with dinner only (no intimacy). After seeing him for several months, she contacted the club and sent us a mysterious coded message along the lines of:
“Something happened, and I finally broke free.”
Apparently, it meant that she was now ready to have an adult relationship (intimate). But when we asked whether we should tell the man, she stopped us, saying, “Um, maybe not…”
It made me think that if a man can’t pick up on a woman’s changing feelings, he may need to occasionally invite her into an adult relationship (intimate), perhaps jokingly.
Of course, if he asks too often, she might get angry, and it could even lead to them parting ways, so it’s a delicate matter…
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I’m Meg, a female member.
It sounds like meeting someone wonderful like Kamihikōki has helped her feel more at ease with the dating club and sparked a sense of adventure.
Before long, she’ll probably realize that truly gentlemanly, generous papas (male supporters) like him are few and far between.
For now, say nothing and just give her some time. If she eventually comes back to you, comfort her and tell her she did well.
I have a feeling that alone might make her say, “I want you to hold me…”
Well, that’s just my feeling!
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
This is kind of a tricky situation that requires some tact^^;
“Sorry!! I couldn’t help taking a look at your profile m(_ _)m
To be honest, I’d actually like to move toward an adult relationship with you, but I haven’t had the courage to bring it up until now. I’m sorry! An adult relationship… would that be out of the question? Please! m(_ _)m”
If it were me, I’d probably bow my head and ask something like that lol.
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I’m Basil, a male member.
Unless she had said she wasn’t seeing any other male members or an ordinary boyfriend at all, getting so confused just because she changed from B to C and re-registered doesn’t sound like you, a seasoned veteran.
Though I suppose you’re just putting the topic out there.
Just as it’s normal for us male members to date multiple women, female members also see multiple men.
Her relationship with the person she was seeing besides you—obviously including an adult relationship (intimate)—probably ended, leaving her with more free time and a thinner wallet. She likely changed to C because she wanted more offers.
Even if that’s what happened, if I still wanted to continue the same relationship, I’d choose ① and avoid stirring things up.
Alternatively, if my feelings had cooled and I was fine with ending things, I’d choose ② and ask how she felt, mostly out of curiosity.
That said, if this had happened when I was new to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I probably would have lost my temper and chosen ④.
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I’m in Seattle.
Probably option ② or ③.
It really depends on what Paper Airplane wants.
There are women I enjoy simply talking to. I ask which type of relationship they prefer and try to accommodate them as much as possible.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I’d go with option ②. If I asked and she tried to awkwardly dodge the question, I’d probably lose interest and say goodbye.
As for the woman re-uploading her profile under C, I’d assume she needed some extra money but found it difficult to tell me.
P.S. That’s right—I have a kink where I find that more enjoyable than putting my penis in during sex. I’d bring it up casually, but I just couldn’t not ask.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
Personally, I’d go with option ②. This may be none of my business, but I’d ask why she changed her dating type and resumed her activities. Leaving something that bothers you unresolved can be stressful, after all. If I couldn’t ask, I’d gradually distance myself.
You’ve had plenty of opportunities to invite her to a hotel but chose not to, so perhaps you weren’t that interested in having an adult relationship (intimate) with her. Since you continued seeing her because you were satisfied with the other aspects of the relationship, if those haven’t changed even after she resumed her activities, I would continue seeing her.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
> Regarding women re-uploading their profiles and changing their type
After joining the dating club and meeting Kamihikōki, I think she probably gained confidence, a sense of security, and curiosity.
① Confidence
She confirmed that she could date male members of the club, keep up with the conversation, enjoy herself, and maintain respectable table manners.
Also, since she enjoys dating Kamihikōki, she’s gained the confidence to enjoy dates with other people too.
② A sense of security
The male members of the dating club aren’t any different from ordinary middle-aged men. They don’t do anything unpleasant or dangerous. If anything, they’re attractive, good-looking men who aren’t stingy with money. (Laughs)
③ Curiosity
She may simply have started wanting to meet other men as well. Kamihikōki doesn’t seem promising in that particular area, so perhaps she thinks she might meet an H-loving older guy like Date◎Yume, or a semi-pro like Mac, who can show her the pleasures of H. (Laughs)
I think it may be something along those lines.
What I would do from here on
If I were in his position, I’d move things toward an adult relationship once I got her okay.
The fact that she considers Kamihikōki a special woman probably means she’s very attractive.
At this point, I think it might be important for Kamihikōki to show her that he’s completely different from the other male members around there.
Oh! Was Kamihikōki’s allowance an SS size? (Laughs)
P.S.
Even an SS size is perfectly fine. (Laughs)
In Date◎Yume’s case, the allowance is SS, and everything else is SS too—but if you treat her in a way that shows you understand the difference, she’ll respond positively. (Laughs)
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