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Sep 18, 2020 01:28
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I used to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) through apps and social media, but recently I took the plunge and registered with a dating club.
I thought I’d finally completed my registration, but since I’m not particularly attractive, I haven’t received a single offer. Since I live outside a major city, I’ve started to wonder whether the number of offers is simply low here—not just for me, but overall. I’ve tried everything I can think of to increase my chances of receiving an offer, but lately I’ve been questioning whether using the profile search function to mark someone as “You seem lovely” actually makes any difference. I do think taking action is better than doing nothing, but I worry that approaching someone might make me come across as too eager, so I haven’t been able to bring myself to use the feature very often.
If anyone can think of even a few tips for making it easier to receive offers outside a major city—other than lowering my relationship type—I'd really appreciate your advice! Thank you in advance♡
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My name is Kurosaki from Universe Club’s Osaka branch.
I’m sorry that we haven’t been able to provide you with any opportunities to meet someone, and that you haven’t been receiving any offers.
When you say, “Lately, I’ve been wondering whether there’s any point in using the ‘You’re Lovely’ mark,” do you mean that you’ve been receiving “You’re Lovely” reactions but they haven’t led to any results?
Considering that you currently aren’t receiving offers just by waiting, I definitely recommend using it.
First of all, men need to view your profile. There are several ways to make that happen, but coming in for a reshoot—which moves your profile to the top—or using the “You’re Lovely” feature mentioned above can be effective♪
Since looks play a major role, the fact that you’re “not conventionally beautiful” may have some impact. Perhaps you could make a few adjustments to appeal more to the “Universe Club type”?
I could go on at length about this, so I’ll leave it at that for now! Please feel free to consult your branch directly☆
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを!
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中!
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです!
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
When I clicked on “Today’s You’re Wonderful,” I suddenly got a message saying, “This member has either left the site or is no longer visible.” What’s going on? I can’t see their profile or anything… I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
I made my profile public a little while ago.
The “Today’s You’re Wonderful♡” notifications show up in pink, and the number next to them gradually climbs more than I expected. It’s fun watching that number increase every day, and it gives me a little confidence boost too.
It sounds like you’re hesitant to send out “You’re Wonderful” reactions, but I think you should just send them without overthinking it. You might as well keep trying—if you send enough, something is bound to come of it.
Of the women who have sent me a “You’re Wonderful” reaction, I’ve added about 12% of them to my favorites. Of those, around 3–4% are women I may want to make an offer to eventually.
Right now, I’m not really looking to make offers, so those are the current numbers. When I am actively making offers, I send one to everyone I’ve added to my favorites. I might even make an offer to one additional person or so.
The people who sent me these “You’re Wonderful” reactions were women I wouldn’t have noticed on my own. Without that initial contact, I wouldn’t have added them to my favorites or even considered making an offer.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
While reading through the questions and answers, I found it interesting that people seemed to interpret “moving up or down in relationship type” differently from me. In my understanding, moving down meant going from C to B, while moving up meant going from B to C. That’s why I couldn’t immediately think of an answer and left it at that—but “moving up” and “moving down” is an interesting way to put it.
> It’s strange, but some girls get flooded with offers while others don’t. From my perspective, they’re all good girls. Maybe it’s how they look in photos?
There are women I think are great who receive very few offers, so I’ve been wondering what could be done to increase them. I’d love to see her happy when she gets more.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the president’s office here as well.
> Other than lowering my relationship type…
This part caught my attention. If you’re reluctant to lower it, I get the feeling you’re probably relationship type A.
With type A, you would normally not be accepted unless you’re exceptionally attractive. Even if you are registered, you need to be so impressive that a man would think, “I’d be happy just having dinner with her,” for you to receive offers.
So if you’re type A, I think you might be better off using apps or social media. There are a few people out there who are happy with dinner only (no intimacy).
Social media is free to use, so you’re more likely to find people like that. Apps are also cheaper than Universe, so while they may not have as many as social media, there are probably more than on Universe.
There are men on Universe who are fine with dinner only as well, but I think you’re more likely to find them in major metropolitan areas like Tokyo and Osaka.
You don’t need to force yourself. I think you should choose the method that feels right to you. However, if you’re type A, it may be less about actively doing something and more about whether you can patiently wait.
If you’re not type A but type B, there’s no need to lower it from there, so you could try discussing it with the staff at your branch.
P.S. I suddenly seem to be hearing a voice from above(笑)
If you write something like “I’d like to be finished by 10:00 p.m.,” men may be less inclined to make an offer, so it’s probably better not to write that.
That said, if you meet someone and then tell him, “I need to leave by 10 tonight,” it could cause problems. So when you receive an offer, it might be best to have the staff ask him something like, “She would need to finish by 10:00 p.m. that day—is that okay?”
Also, if your relationship type happens to be D, I feel like you might be better off choosing C. Type D seems to give the impression that intimacy is guaranteed. (In reality, you still have the right to say no, so even with type D, you may be turned down.) There are a certain number of men who dislike that because it feels too much like the adult-entertainment industry.
Also, maybe it’s just bad luck, but I feel like the staff’s photos aren’t very good. There should be plenty of people who are good at taking photos, so I wonder if it just comes down to luck… ><
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
Since competition is high at dating clubs, I think being “chosen” is quite challenging.
From the perspective of being more proactive, I think “You seem wonderful” is a good approach. However, even women who receive a “You seem wonderful” message won’t make an offer unless they’re interested in dating or feel like reaching out. So unless you can show some unique appeal—your dreams, current pursuits, special skills, hobbies, or the like—you may not receive many offers for dinner-only dates.
I’m based outside a major city too, but when it comes to finding a woman for dinner only, I can usually get someone to join me simply by asking several female coworkers at once, so I don’t feel the need for it at the moment.
I imagine many other male members are in a similar situation, but there seem to be quite a few men like that on the member page, so I assume there’s still demand.
Fraud is obviously unacceptable, but I think it’s fine to promote yourself using every legitimate method available—retaking your photos, taking new selfies, updating your profile comments, consulting the staff, and so on.
You might also consider changing your dating preferences to be more proactive.
Dating clubs aren’t a charade—they’re places to actually date, after all.(笑)