For those of you who answer as women, how many offers did it take before you met someone wonderful?

I’m Marika, a female member. I’m in my 40s and registered as Type C. Maybe my standards are a little lenient, but I haven’t met anyone particularly awful… Well, maybe there was one person. The papa (a male supporter) I was matched with for my first meeting was a really wonderful person. Everyone who’s contacted me recently has been nice, too. I wasn’t expecting a large allowance to begin with, but I’ve been given more than enough. I haven’t had any issues with their manners or appearance, or with the things they talk about or how often they message me by email or LINE. I wonder if it’s a regional thing, an age-group thing, or something else. This may not be very helpful, but there really are some wonderful male members out there. Don’t get discouraged—look forward to the next one!

This is Paper Airplane, a male member who was kicked out by his wife this morning with, “You’re so annoying—get out!” and had nothing to do at work (Oh, right… there’s the Q&A box). Even though I’m a gross, fat, bald meatball (as my wife calls me), I’ve had women I’m seeing meet me more than ten times. So, for what it’s worth, here are the numbers of offers they received. (Huh? Not useful as a reference? …Yeah, probably not. There weren’t many answers, so I figured I’d add mine anyway.) - One woman who was on her third offer when I met her as a Type B. - One woman from each of Types A, B, and C whose first offer was from me and who went on hiatus or left the club fairly soon afterward. (Maybe the sight of this gross, fat, bald meatball was so discouraging that they gave up hope and took a break?? Sorry… I’ll count this as giving hope to gross, fat, bald men.) As for the rest, they had already been members for over a year, so I don’t know how many offers they’d received before. After we met, they only got offers sporadically. The women I’ve continued seeing have either been new members or women who had already been members for a year or several years. It may just be coincidence, but I don’t think I’ve met any women who had been members for only a few weeks to a few months more than three or four times.

Maezawa from the President’s Office here. I seem to remember another respondent saying that the quality of the men declined after changing from B to C. So if you’re currently set to C or D, why not try switching to B? I think it will change the type of men who send you offers. That said, after you make the change, the system will keep displaying the date you changed it, so the men will notice as well. You may also get asked about it by the staff. (笑) (They’ll ask you to explain the reason.)

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. I’m not someone you asked to answer, but I wanted to add a quick comment. > I’d like to meet someone who treats me with respect as a person. At the very least, someone who doesn’t force me to do things I’m uncomfortable with, makes a basic effort with their appearance, doesn’t casually show up late or cancel at the last minute, and can at least use protection. Those are all perfectly reasonable expectations, so I feel like the people you’ve met so far may simply have been unlucky encounters. Maybe you could ask your branch to introduce you to someone, or ask the branch what kind of person they are when you receive an offer, to avoid mismatches. It’s difficult to manage everything on your own, so make good use of the branch where you’re registered.