Lately, everything goes well until we enjoy the date, but although we exchange contact information afterward, the chances of it leading to a second date are low.
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I don’t think the issue is on her end, but in these situations, I feel like she usually wants to leave quickly once things are over. (Since this is before I give her the allowance, I don’t think it’s a matter of the amount.) I suppose they may either be looking for something casual and one-off, I may simply compare unfavorably with others, or we may want different types of arrangements.
After a date, what percentage of your relationships continue on an ongoing basis? I’d appreciate it if you could share your batting average.
Maezawa from the president’s office here, answering as well.
> In situations like that, I get the feeling they usually want to leave quickly once things are over.
Maybe it lasted longer than she expected, so she had to hurry home because she was running out of time…
Maybe she didn’t like the smell or the sweat and was just putting up with it…
Maybe you didn’t use protection. She may not have said anything because you didn’t ask and it happened suddenly, but she might have decided there wouldn’t be a next time.
Since even she doesn’t seem to know the reason, those are the possibilities that come to mind.
> Since I hadn’t given her the allowance yet, I don’t think it was about the amount.
If she won’t meet you again, then the issue would be what happened after you gave her the allowance, so I do think the amount may have been a factor.
Some people who want to leave quickly prioritize the money. If the allowance was lower than she expected, she probably won’t meet you again.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
For me, it’s 100%.
I tell them, “Please don’t expect too much in terms of looks,” so when I ask, “Would you be open to seeing each other?” and they say, “That’s fine,” I’ve never turned anyone down, nor have I ever been turned down.
There have been times when I was told, “I’m sorry, I can’t.” Given my age, I just thought, “Well, I suppose that can’t be helped…”
Rather than forcing anything, I think it’s perfectly fine to deepen the relationship with the people who are willing to see you—even if there aren’t many of them.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
I don’t think asking about your success rate will really help you improve. ^^
For the first meeting, just keep things comfortable and low-pressure. Be kind and considerate without making her feel uncomfortable, and I think that will give you a good chance of seeing her a second time.
If that still doesn’t work, try taking another look at things like your conversation, grooming, body odor, and breath. That may help you improve.
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I’m Paper Plane, a male member who likes to spend about two hours quietly savoring the afterglow once things are over.
With a B type closer to C, or a C type, the arrangement will probably continue unless you really dislike the person—and you’ll likely still meet even if it’s been a while.
With a B type, however, if you feel even slightly uncomfortable, it probably won’t continue.
With a B type closer to A, you’ll likely continue as long as you don’t dislike the person.
I assume there may be some specific reason in the questioner’s case, but without any clues, it would be presumptuous of me to speculate. If you could provide more details, I’d be happy to answer again.
Also, the better the compatibility, the shorter the time things take—which means you can fully enjoy the afterglow afterward. The worse the compatibility, the longer it tends to take, and the unpleasant aspects become increasingly obvious. Rather than enjoying the moment or the afterglow, the woman may simply want to escape or leave as quickly as possible. So please be careful: the longer it lasts, the more satisfied the man may be, while the woman may end up having the worst experience.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Speaking purely from my gut feeling, I’d say that about half of the women I’ve been intimate with are people I’d like—or feel I could—continue seeing.
Even with the others, aside from a very small number of women, I’d be happy to meet if they reached out. Depending on how things develop, I think some of them might also become ongoing relationships.
Looking at it from the same angle as Mac, I’ve never had a woman I’ve been intimate with turn me down when I asked to see her again. From that perspective, it’s also 100%. Though that’s partly because I rarely initiate invitations myself.
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I’m Marika, a female member.
If the allowance is reasonably fair, I think most women would be willing to overlook less-than-ideal physical compatibility to some extent.
Even so, if she hurriedly leaves and there’s no next time, there may be something specific she finds off-putting—something you can’t tell during dinner.
For example, as someone mentioned a little while ago, maybe your kissing is gross, or you have bad breath or body odor. Or perhaps something you consider normal is actually extremely kinky, lol.
It’s hard to say since only the woman knows the real reason, but why not try working on anything you feel you could improve?
I’ll leave the question of your “batting average” unanswered, since that’s not really something a woman would comment on.
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